I am slightly musing aloud here really but welcome any words of wisdom.
DS is in Y5, so our thoughts are inevitably turning towards secondary school applications.
We live in a town where people tend to go to their catchment secondary - in fact admissions criteria mean it would be nigh on impossible for us to get into any other state secondary in our town (excluding the 2 "failing" schools, which are the wrong end of town for us anyway).
Our catchment secondary is best described as "bog standard" - it has a very mixed intake and I've heard both good and bad things about it from parents with children there. Most seem to think it is "perfectly fine" without raving about it (though tbh that is a description also levelled at the DC's current junior school which has been - "perfectly fine"!). It is a fairly modern school and does have (to my mind anyway) amazing facilities. Anyway, DH and I had also just assumed that DS (along with 95% of his current school) would go there.
However, I'm starting to worry (and I accept that this is largely due to influences from my extended family) that this is too passive a decision.
We live on the edge of a grammar area so there are some parents angling for grammar places (many of whom will have put their children into private junior or have been heavily tutoring) - I had discounted this as it would mean an hour on the bus, early starts and long days for DS (plus he obviously may not get in!). Or we could move but that feels like big step, mean longer commute for me and disruption for DC.
My extended family are very pro-private education and my brother's children go to a private school. I hear a lot about how wonderful the school is (and a lot of criticism - both unspoken and thinly hidden- about how state schools evidently aren't). However, again the private school would mean an hour on a bus (and he might not get in). We fall into the "we could just about afford it if we drove a battered old car and had no holidays" camp, but our jobs are both uncertain, plus we would definitely both have to work full time to afford it (and I was rather thinking that my going part time to be about more would be more beneficial).
DS is above average ability but not stellar (his predicted levels for the end of Year 5 are 5c in maths and reading and 4b in writing). He has a tendency to do the bare minimum and I do wonder if a more academic environment might push him more.
But basically, I am starting to dither under pressure that the results at the bog-standard comp (looking only at high achievers) are not a patch on those at the grammar or private school and would I be letting my DC down by simply taking the passive option?