What is this likely to mean?

[unlucky83]

Want to be discreet - my DD has been bullied a bit recently.
Contacted school (for the first time) about a recent incident. DD didn't want anyone to know she had told.

DD has had problems with one of the bullies from primary - a bit of a ringleader but not the main culprit in this case.

'bully' is in trouble a lot, has seen education psychiatrist (told everyone because apparently when questioned about their swearing swore at them) swears at teachers etc, generally misbehaves, has been excluded.

The teacher spoke to my DD, said they had spoken to some of the others involved but not 'bully' because another teacher is writing these incidents down.
So what does that mean - that the bully is their way to being expelled? or that they are trying to get some help for them? Will 'bully's' parents know?

Torn here - 'bully' and my DD used to be friends - I know (and like) bully's parents...part of me would be relieved for DD to see the back of them - part of me thinks I should let their parent's know about the teacher 'writing it down' .....
Any ideas?

Apart from your DD being kept safe from the other child, what goes on behind the scenes isn't any of your concern.

I should have said actually know the parents of most of the children involved in this and would have spoken to their parent's directly - except DD didn't want then to know she 'told'....and an older child was involved and a few witnesses meant that the school could have found out from a range of sources....

x post - just feel a teeny tiny bit guilty not to tell 'bully's parent if they are heading for more serious trouble...
before DCs fell out we were good friends - and still are really...

Don't tell the parents anything. You will definitely make it more difficult to sort out and the parents of the bully's may well turn on you and blame you. My understanding of exclusion procedures and also expulsion is that schools need to prove they have tried everything they can so need to record what they tried and if it didn't work. This is fair to the child because they have every chance to mend their ways then.

Thanks - bully's interaction with my DD is minor to what else has gone on ...and I know their parents know that...and DD is usually good at sticking up for herself with this 'bully' because of their history ...(it was a gang of others that made her get upset)
Guess the parent's will have a pretty good what is happening anyway ...do feel they are slightly out of their depth...and me telling them this won't help...
(Worse I will have one of the other culprits in my car tonight - giving them a lift - and they are the worst kind - egg on, manipulate but don't DO anything tangible - and will be really nice to DD and I I will really have to bite my tongue!)

parents not parent's!