PLEASE HELP with school info: St Josephs (Reading), St Bernards Catholic Grammar (Slough), Charters (ascot), Aldenham (Herts)

[mich4]

Does anyone have any info regarding these 4 schools. Need to make a choice soon for 17 year old daughter. Previously at 2 State schools - hated them. Went to very small private school and loved it. Think school should be teaching manners ie. children stand up in classroom when visitors enter etc. Don't want her school friends to be rough. Would like other children to be well mannered, respectful, speak correctly etc. - but not boring and introverted(tall order I know!). My dd quite sensitive, cannot cope with bullies/mind games etc. Wants friendly/welcoming people (don't we all!). Her confidence needs boosting. She is bright but inclined to be lazy so does need pushing. Is it possible to get what I am looking for at above schools? Would really appreciate any help as need to make a decision very soon.

Hmmm. Whilst I think that actually you should be responsible for teaching some of these areas rather than a school (manners and laziness are definitely something parents should deal with), I know that St. Jos does seem to produce very sweet, caring girls- and they certainly get incredible results with them! I was speaking to one of the teachers there recently and have to confess to being quite envious at the small class sizes and her description of the atmosphere. She was telling me about the grades they attain with some of the bottom sets and I was utterly blown away.

Know nothing about the other schools, but that one would be very good pastorally.

Agree that manners should be taught at home - however nothing is that simple. DD sees dad who does not back me up. I think it is helpful if good manners reinforced by schools. So many State schools do not bother, children do not open doors to adults nor visitors, foul language etc etc.

Have you visited the schools?
I know a handful of St B's students, and would say it has the traditional values you are looking for.