Masonlee, sorry you and your DS have all this to deal with.
Tiggytape is right, and it isn't about disrespecting the other school but as s/he says, the panel's only job is to decide whether your child needs something their school can offer, and that only their school can offer,and why your child, more than any other children of his age, needs that specific school. And they don't take the school's overall academic performance into consideration.
It sounds as if you have strong grounds on which to build an appeal.
IMO you need to be very detailed and specific on each issue.
- that your DS needs to stay with his friends, who understand what he has been through, and who have known him since forever. And all the reasons why he needs to stay with these friends
- That the journey to school will be a point of vulnerability for him and he will be more confident travelling with known and trusted friends
-Needs to stay close to home on an area he knows (if it is close, of course!)
-Any anxiety he demonstrates in being in new places, getting to know and trust new people
- the pastoral support in the school
- the mentoring system that will support him
- anything else relevant.
It is excellent to have all the evidence that you have about his ordeal, but as well as them saying what happened and what the effect on him has been it would be good if they could specifically say 'and we believe that going to school with his close friends who have supported him is an important part of his recovery' and 'if he is not able to make the secondary transition with trusted friends his confidence / self esteem / trauma could suffer very badly' and 'I believe that school, with it's strong pastoral supoprt and mentoring programme will be the best school to support XXX and give him the help he needs'. i.e they have to actually specify that he needs to go to your preferred school.
I may be worng but I think I read in the schools Admissions Code that evidence from a child's school is not admissable? But then surely a statement about the impact of the ordeal on his academic progress can only come from his primary school. Maybe one of the MN Appeals experts can clarify that?
Good luck, masonlee, I hope things work out well for you.