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The Trinity-Whitgift thread of 2013 continued

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Somelikeithott · 16/02/2013 16:46

Hi all as I posted on previous thread, I realised we had hit the 1000 mark, do felt obliged to open a new one. Hope everyone finds this thread easily

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FatalFlowerGarden · 05/03/2013 13:35

Thank you everyone - I am indeed very far over the moon! Poor Mr Beck though, I very nearly cried down the phone and was definitely a bit gushy Grin

Am so happy, ds deserves this, so proud of him!

burntoutdad · 05/03/2013 13:45

Hooraaayyyy - fantastic news Fatal. The fat lady has finally sung, and a song we all wanted to hear!!! SmileSmile
Your DS will be sooooo chuffed after all this waiting.

burntoutdad · 05/03/2013 13:50

Im now thinking of when you tell him and re-living the moment we told our DS and the look on his face - absolutely priceless!!

Marni23 · 05/03/2013 13:57

Fatal, I am soooo pleased for you-that is just fantastic news.

We decided on another school in the end, but it was very difficult to turn down T. It came down to us thinking co-ed would suit our DS better, and location, but we think T is a brilliant school and I'm sure all your boys will have a ball there (and at W). Best of luck to them all.

Somelikeithott · 05/03/2013 14:06

Hi again fatal flower, I recorded my DS on my phone as I gave him the offer letters to read ( this is how he found out he got in), i gave him the ones addressed to him when I went to pick him up from school. I then sent the recording to DH'a phone, he was at work, so he could share in the moment (albeit belatedly). Priceless!!!! Whatever you do, it will be a memorable moment for you & your DS. Again, really pleased for you both.

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Somelikeithott · 05/03/2013 14:09

Marni, well done to your DS. All the best for the future to him in his new school.

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Ladymuck · 05/03/2013 14:18

Really pleased for you Fatal, and well done to your ds.

cheammum · 05/03/2013 14:18

Fatal...congrats...so pleased for you.

Although I don't know any of you on this thread it is a nice feeling to rejoice at other's good news and experiences...as we all know how tough a journey this 10 and 11+ experience has been.

This thread has indeed been so encouraging and supportive for both W and T...trying to ween myself off logging on each day to find out how everyone is...but proving too difficult at the moment....!

Well done again Fatal.

NotADragonOfSoup · 05/03/2013 14:38

So pleased for you, Fatal :)

Treble · 05/03/2013 14:39

I'm a first timer here and have been following your various posts, which have been somewhat encouraging. My DS is on waiting list for W and its like the 15th of Feb all over again. Not too long now... Best wishes to all! Well done Fatal!

therugratref · 05/03/2013 14:42

Yay Fatal brilliant news.

nothingyummymum · 05/03/2013 14:43

Welcome, Treble. Hoping you get your good news very soon!

Treble · 05/03/2013 15:27

Thanks nothingyummymum, That would be fabulous and DS so thrilled! Here's hoping...

Treble · 05/03/2013 15:51

Just got the call through offering a W place! Yay!! Full fee paying - no bursary :((
What to do?!!

hardboiled · 05/03/2013 16:03

Do you need the bursary?

Croydonmumtods · 05/03/2013 16:31

fatal congratulations and well done. Welcome to the peacock brigade!!
treble great news on the offer - hope you'll be able to take this up.

It's so lovely to see the many positive and encouraging comments on here which has kept me going all these weeks. It is a shame some people feel a need to be negative but possibly this reflects their own insecurities rather then the absolute delight the rest of us feel regarding our ds's outstanding acheivements.
burntoutdad you should be easy to recognise as well as don't expext many others will be coming by donkey.
zato love your idea of meeting but sadly on the other side which made me think why not get this school rivalry thing really moving and have a T against W preseason friendly!

Yes I have been absent for a few days and have thoroughly enjoyed catching up with the news.

burntoutdad · 05/03/2013 17:04

Croydonmumtods - LOL!! Grin Alas after a recount of our finances and the realisation that childcare, uniform etc. will all be more expensive, I'm afraid that even a donkey and its associated garaging and fuel would be considered an upmarket luxury travel expense for us! We are considering other modes and any ideas will be considered Smile.

I don't think anyone has tried to be purposely negative on here but its interesting to hear what some people have thought about the whole process (without actually thinking about the whole process!)

Like the idea re the school rivalry - lets start as we mean to go on and thrash play them in a pre-season friendly Wink

Zato - thought you were a mum until the beer & curry proposal (and of course signing off as 'David'!). You might get more of a response if you make it 'wine and nibbles'!

NotADragonOfSoup · 05/03/2013 17:32

I can do you a good deal on a cocker spaniel - strong enough to pull a fully grown adult female on a scooter up a hill. Allegedly. [ahem]

Treble · 05/03/2013 17:35

@hardboiled, yes I did apply for a bursary place
@Croydonmumtods, thank you, I've got a couple of days to decide

Somelikeithott · 05/03/2013 19:13

Treble, well done to your DS. Hope you are in a position to take up the offer. I think generally, it's been a difficult year in terms of scholarships and bursaries in both W & T.

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CINDER55 · 05/03/2013 21:51

Hi all, have been lurking and sharing your high and lows from a distance. I am parent with two DS's at Whitgift, one in Yr11 and one in Yr 8, so can give a sense of perspective on some of the posts. Will also state upfront that we do benefit from bursaries.

  1. Is Whitgift a top tier or super selective school, no it is not! For that you would be looking at schools like KCS Wimbledon, Westminster etc. They are super selective, and still offer sports and music and the results show. E.g KCS had 55 offers to Oxford or Cambridge out of a year group of 100. Whitgift had 8 out of a year group of 200, so the difference is clear. However ,Whitgift is a solid school that will give your DS's a good solid base from which to build. For us has it been everything we imagined no, but are are DS'shappy. Yes!

  2. The Whitgift foundation schools have one of the most generous Bursary schemes in the UK, it is widely acknowledged as creating a unique and diverse social mix. Not a bad thing, but has and does create issues in the social dynamic of the school.

  3. Having spent £10 million on the Sports Centre are they keen to promote sporting excellence? Yes they are! But there is a feeling amongst existing Whitgift parents that this is to the detriment of bright boys at the admissions process. When DS2 was sitting 11+, a clever boy inis year group at his state primarywas offered scholarships at five other schools but not at Whitgift. A not so bright boy from the same state primary but a great cricketer was offered a 30 % scholarship with a full fee remission with a bursary. There is a feeling amongst parents that this pattern is worrying and had been mentioned to the school, as Whitgift have lost a lot of bright boys because of this as they choose to go elsewhere.

Part of the issue is that the school is so (too) big. Naturally they are focused on the top 10 %in each year who are scholars whether they are in Music, Drama, Sport or Academic. It does leave a big underbelly of boys in that middle ground who can get a bit lost in the system, and I would question if I was full fee paying as to whether there was value for money. Part of the issue is class size. Burntoutdad comment re great staff ratio is simply wrong. Whitgift have class size of 25, against Trinity with 22 and the super selectives have 20. Places like St Paul's and KCS teach in classes of 8 for the first three years in Maths, English and French etc.

In terms of offers and places offered, this year the rumour going round parents already at the school is that all passed that want a place have been offered a place, some went on the reserve list but have know been offered. If you can pay full fees there are still places available. Part of the issue is that the scholarship pool has been cut drastically so they have had a lot of rejections from parents expecting scholarships. They were expecting this so over offered massively. We have heard through the HM of Ds2 old prep school that lots did not get Trinity but did get into Whitgift, or offered Scholarships at other schools but not at Whitgift. It is also an open secret there that if your DS has not got a place elsewhere and did not try initially for Whitgift then a full fee place can be secured there today.

A big shock for me and perhaps why I'm writing this post is what I have just found out regarding GCSE entries, if they feel that your DS is not up the mark in a subject and will damage their rankings, they will ask him to sit the exams at Croydon College, so you pay the fees but are not sitting public exams under The Whitgift umbrella. Trinity does not do this, don't know about the others. There is also a big cull before entry to he sixth form. If you want proof of this ask them the question how many sat GCSE in English and Maths under the Whitgift name' you will find the answer will be 160-170, weal know that there is 200in each year group, so ask them what happened to the rest, as everyone sits English and Maths.......

Ok so this is not a rant, nor am I doing the school down, I have two DS's that are doing well there and have benefited from what Whitgift offer, but you need to be aware and manage your way through the school.and see past the Peacocks and Purple Capes. Top tier - no, a good solid school - yes.Enjoy and rejoice that your DS's have got in but go in with your eyes open!!!

nothingyummymum · 05/03/2013 22:30

Phew - read Cinder55's post just as I was about to post how sorry I am about being negative earlier! Am slightly at a loss for words now, except to say what I had actually meant to convey was an honest (too honest?) confession of how much a place at W means to DS. We are of the full fee paying variety and our difficulty was figuring out how we were going to pay for it, not whether to accept the place or not. I would still like to think every single DS who has been offered a place - whether at T, W or any other school that required assessments, interviews and tough (I'd like to believe?) entrance exams, fully deserves a place and I celebrate for each and everyone who has been accepted, while I cry for those who have either not been offered places or had to turn them down because of scholarship or bursary issues.
DS can't wait to start at W - in fact he would have started tomorrow if we had let him - and I really, really hope nothing curbs his enthusiasm, or that of any of the other boys who've worked hard and deserve to have their achievements celebrated. And that is meant in the most positive of ways.

Croydonmumtods · 05/03/2013 22:52

nothingyummymum I didn't read anything negative in your previous post in fact felt you reflected my own disappointment at suggestion that anyone who applied to W got in. Have also read cinder55 post and feel it is probably a realistic view from a current parent and forewarned is forearmed but I don't think it is a view shared by all. It is interesting to note that full fee places are available to anyone so perhaps I am a little naive but never mind. Have I made the right choice- yes without a doubt. Is any school likely to be perfect - no. But as cinders said it is a good solid school and up to us and our ds's to make the best of it.

FatalFlowerGarden · 05/03/2013 23:04

Well, am just about calmed down now. Ds greeted the news with a huge grin, punched the air and then spent the next hour on the W website, so I think he's pretty pleased too Grin

Am interested in the comments made about the 'social mix'. One of the things I like about the Foundation schools is that they do seem to end up with a more diverse intake, far more so than the usual 'public school' cliche. What sort of issues has it caused, cinder?

Croydonmumtods · 05/03/2013 23:15

fatal so pleased for you and your DS. At interview W were very particular to stress diversity of the school and to point out that everyone earned their place there and not just kids from independent preps. This is part of what I like about the school - society is diverse and schools should reflect that and children need to learn to get along with people even those they may not like as that is what happens when you go to work. Be interested to see what cinders has to say