Year 7 - is this inappropriate talk from this boy or am I naive?

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DD has told me this morning that a boy in her year keeps asking her if she fingers herself and can he finger her! She says she just walks away. I'm not happy and thinking of either complaining to school about him or his parents.

I know now she's at secondary she will come across all this sort of talk but to directly ask her? WTF? DH thinks its harassment.

Ive posted on here before about this lad. They were in year 6 together and he kept asking the girls about wanking and other stuff. A few parents complained to the teacher and the schools way of dealing with it was to chat to the boys concerned, their parents weren't informed. I remember a few posters on here saying if it was their boy they would want to know, as would I.

So what do I do? I have a meeting at school on we'd so could bring it up then. Shall I speak to his parents or his nan, who I know quite well. He sometimes knocks at home for DD to go to the park. She will never be going there with him now but I'm tempted to invite him in and tell him exactly why and if it continues, I will be round his house like a shot and up the school.

At my secondary such comments could have been seen as minor BUT there were girls involved in child prostitution and others being sexually abused, as well as most of those who made such comments in year 7 equivalant ended up in care/borstal.

Most schools I know nowadays are far more clued up and pro-active about child protection.
Do speak to the school.

I would ask for an urgent meeting with the head teacher first thing tomorrow morning.

Well I certainly wouldn't, but I would mention it to the form tutor of my child pretty soon, either in person or on the phone.

This thread makes me thank the lord my year 8 dd is at an all girls school. Vile.

I cant help but blame internet phones. Kids have them in school and everywhere they go out of sight of parents and no one knows what kids are looking at

I think it's totally inappropriate, and if that happened in a working environment, the boy/man would be seriously reprimanded even sacked for sexual harassment.

I would talk to the boy and the Nan as you know her, but I know that's hard, as I had a similar experience when my daughter was very young and a boy on a playdate behaved in a sexual manner. I did talk to the Mum, but she played it all down, and denied it too, and I made the decision as her neighbour and also as our kids were at the same school to not make an issue, but have not let my daughter go to his house again.

I certainly wouldn't want anyone speaking to my daughter like that - it's certainly not nice. The school certainly need to know immediately. If no one tells them they can't either have a word with him or keep on eye on things.

Bubbless, you might not have a connection with the children, but aren't you duty bound to inform the supervising staff of anything inappropriate? I work at a school and the catering staff certainly inform us of things they've heard or seen, so we can decide the best course of action.

nomnom, obviously girls are more likely to avoid sexual harrassment at an all girls' school, but they're no more bully-free zones than boys schools or co-eds.

I would hope my sons would not say sexual or sweary things in front of the catering staff and I would be more than happy for them to be told off for doing so, if that happened.