How unacceptable is hitting. Year 7

[mebaasmum]

boys hitting each other at ds,s school seems widespread, friends dd at another school got a fixed term exclusion. at ds,s school it seems to be a constant x hit y today and no concequences

clearly it is down to the policy of the school and then how far this is enforced on a daily basis.

What sort of hitting do you mean?
I see boys from the school by my work whacking each other with their rucsacks and thumping each other on the arm quite hard - all clearly as some sort of boy friendship ritual.
Or
Punching someone full on, or slapping someone's face in anger?

most schools issue automatic exclusions for fighting or hitting, but of course only if they are reported or caught. It could just be friendly horse play your son is referring to? Or off of the school premises? If it is something more than thet then the school should be informed.

Our school has a BMU (Behaviour Management Unit). Anyone found guilty of hitting will face consequences with detentions being the first port of call. My son as been hit several times but the perpetrators have been dealt with by BMU and thankfully haven't come back for seconds.

Some children do interpret as hitting the rough play, eg. Hand slapping games (you can see in any queue at legoland between boys and Dads). However real hitting has always been taken seriously at all the senior schools I know.

Our school has a no contact rule, which ds finds very annoying as a large part of his play with his friends seems to involve wrestling, and physical play etc. He gets very aggrieved about being sent to the head, who seems to manage him just fine. I think it is very much down to the school to set and enforce rules.

mummytime- I am really curious, how many schools do you know? Are you a teacher?

I was a trainee teacher and have secondary kids.

As I often tell my Y7's 'we don't play touching games at big school'

Horseplay often leads to fights so best nip it in the bud early.

The Yr7 and 8 boys I teach constantly want to wrestle, push, strangle and headlock each other. They are friends and it's all a 'game' but I'm fed up of intervening and remending them we don't act like that in a school. Their parents offer no support at all, saying 'boys will be boys' type stuff.