DS started secondary last September. He seems to have settled reasonably well.
He's quite a mature lad, and is happy in himself - doesn't seem too bothered by what others think (he's a bit of a geek!) and just keeps himself busy and out of trouble. He's made a couple of good friends - other boys pretty much like him.
In about October last year he told me that his class teacher had asked him to 'buddy up' with another boy (Boy A) in his class who was 'having problems settling in'. DS was asked if he could take him to lunchtime clubs and generally befriend him a bit.
When Ds told me, I asked him what he felt about it, and he said it was fine, so I thought fair enough - after all not everyone finds it so easy to find their feet.
It was DS's birthday at about this time, so we invited Boy A to join DS's party/bowling trip - he was a nightmare -rude and disprutive - and disappeared from the bowling alley halfway through. DH found him next door in the amusement section after about 20 mins of frantic searching!
Anyway the relationship more or less fizzled out at the beginning of this year, especially when Boy A declared DS was a 'dick' and said he 'didn't need to be friends with DS anymore, as he'd found some new friends' 
. Fine, I thought.
Then this last week DS has started getting invitations to meet with/go over to another boy's house (Boy B) - a boy he says he barely knows! We also know this boy has had problems with anger management/behaviour, and has been in trouble for fighting with another boy.
Since I felt rather confused about this sudden 'friendship' I asked a friend of mine who has a boy in Boy B's class about him. She told me that she had been talking to Boy B's mum who had said that they'd had lots of problems, but that the school pastoral care service had been helpful, and had recommended some buddies for him. So seemingly that's where my son comes in (again!) .
Obviously it's a compliment that the school are suggesting DS for this, but I can't help feeling a bit unhappy about it. I've always taught my kids to be polite and friendly to everyone, but I don't think it's fair to try to 'force' friendships, especially at this age when they are still finding their feet themselves (however confident and mature they might appear).
After the Boy A experience DS is a bit more reluctant this time around, and I can understand that.
He has already politely declined a couple of Boy B invitations due to other events, but now I have had the mum contact me to try to arrange something over half term! It's all a bit bizarre and intense for my liking!
WWYD?