my daughter keeps refuseing to go sschool

[loz12]

my daughter keeps getting exclued from school, she know wot she doing but after getting exclued 3 time she now going to be exclued permently, for mouths i have been asking for help i even called socail s, no will help me , all my daughter dose now is sits in her room 24/7 i have told her i could lose my job because i keep haveing to change my shift so that i can go to the meetings , iam at a point now that there no more i can do. HELP!!!!!1

loz there's obviously something wrong, I'm sure she can be helped, you just have to find out what exactly is wrong with her. It will be very difficult if she's full of anger and not talking to you so the best thing you can do is to open up as much as possible.

You come across as being absolutely desperate and I don't blame you. But she will sense that and it will probably make her worse because she need a strong Mum who's there for her - you are that person, nobody else can take your place.

Make sure you have time together without phones, distraction, computers etc. Sit with her - don't say anything, just be in her presence until she can relax with you. It sounds a bit creepy, but it works, believe me but you have to do it every day so she doesn't think it's a one off. One day she will talk and when she does, just listen - don't say anything.

Until you've found out what the problem is you can't help her - and being 80 miles away from you won't help either.

loz - Some great advice on here, you could also ring these people for help too -

www.ace-ed.org.uk

They're independent, and really helped me when my DS was excluded last year... They also put me in touch with a local educational organisation who came with me to school meetings, and came up with brilliant solutions.

thank for all your help, my daughter has now move to hasting with my older daughter and is now going to school and is now happy thanks again everyone x