I feel slightly bad about this. Son handing homework in late.

[LadySybilDeChocolate]

At least once a week ds is asking for a homework extension. He appears to be working his way around the teachers and, despite my nagging, things have not improved. He does get a fair amount of homework but it doesn't usually take him very long to complete. He will, however, leave it until the very last minute so doesn't always get it all finished.
I've just emailed his tutor to make her aware of the amount of extensions he's getting but I do feel as if I'm dobbing him in. I don't think it's fair on the other students or the teachers though. Was I unreasonable to do this?

Well he will never learn to manage his time if he does get constant extensions and there will come a point when an extension just isn't possible so you are doing him a favour by putting a stop to this now.

I have to admire his style though - each teacher probably thinks they are the only one giving him a bit of leeway

He seems so proud of that!! I keep telling him that they do talk to each other, he seems to think that he just needs to ask and come out with an excuse and they will give him an extension He wants to go to Oxford Uni so he's going to have to be responsible for himself sooner rather then later.

step back.he's a big boy now you are over-involved

I'd say you were unreasonable tbh.

Let the teachers deal with it.

I should. He's so disorganised though.

It's completely normal for a secondary age boy to hand in homework late and test a few boundaries. You're his mother not the homework police.

I think you did the right thing and my ds knows I would do simelar if I had a reason to.

I'll leave him to it from now on I think. He's soo disorganised it's shocking. Is this a boy thing?

No, not necessarily a boy thing. One of my DDs is disorganised to an infuriating degree (as is my DS).

I can assure you, no-one with that attitude gets into Oxford without a rather large family fortune made from the colonial slave trade...

That's my thinking Belgarion. He can do the work very easily so he's letting himself down by not handing it in on time. He's an A grade student but puts in no effort at all. With a bit of effort he could do so well.

had similar with ds1....got to the stage where he had 48 hours to complete course work or forfeit the exam basically!

I was up to here with coercing, chatting reminding, nagging about homework

One of his teachers phoned and was very nice about committing time to ds1 as he had faith that he would get a good result and really said that ds1 would have a fabulous career as a confidence trickster! He (ds) was always so charming, polite and plausible.

Upshot of it all was they all cracked down and fortunately ds realised the game was up! He's still cruising a bit, but is not quite such a last minute merchant now he is at university.