I responded to some of the replies with this...
She does have friends in other classes and one 'best friend' in another class so is fine at break. But she says she needs someone in her class. She was bullied last year but that child was asked to leave the school, not just because of what he did to my DD, but she says everyone in her class has a good friend and she doesn't. She is also quite mature in some ways and is picky about her friends to the point of 'Mum, they bore me they talk about silly things'. This morning she has gone to school with a notebook and is going to write down all the things that happen in her class that as far as she is concerned will 'show' the assistant head' why her classes behaviour is unacceptable and she can't learn in it. I honestly could throttle her sometimes. Her teachers say she appears fine when in class and I know this is true. She has 'friends' in there but not a BF. But if the class find the notebook she is liable NOT to have anyone at all. I know she sounds like a complete (add a name) but she really is a gorgeous, loving, clever and fun girl who is just a bit different fom her peers and struggling. The more I write the more I agree that whilst her sensitivity might stem from the GF I am looking at another issue altogether. I will move this to education but appreciate your feeback so far.