Forgotten homework - leave him to face consequences or take it in??

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My Year 7 DS forgot his RE homework today. He rang me at breaktime and asked me if I could drop it at school reception for him, so I did. His RE teacher had sent a note home before half term saying that too many children were not doing their homework so after half term, detentions would be issued to anyone who did not bring it in (DS has always done and handed in the homework before but would, of course, have been included in this new punishment today)

DH thinks I should have left him to face the consequences of leaving his homework at home so that he takes more care in future.

At the start of YR7, I was 'carrying' him with regards to organising himself with homework, books, sports kits etc but I've been able to step back, he's got to grips with it and he pretty much organises himself now - so to be honest, I don't want him to get into trouble

What would you have done?

In those circs yes I would have taken it in. If I'd nagged 20 times and reminded and cajoled while he xboxed then I wouln't

If it was the first time he'd forgotten something and it wasn't too inconvenient for me to take it in I would have dropped it off. I have had a couple of panicked phone calls from DS when he was in year 7 but he hasn't forgotten anything since then (he's in year 9 now). DD1 went through a phase of forgetting things in year 10 and I let her take the consequences for that but I'd cut some slack for the first term of year 7.

i would have done the same as you

if he was regularly "forgetting" it i would maybe think your DH has a point

but equally i think it's good to teach them that if you can help someone out you should.

Take it in. He's done the work after all.

Take it in.
But this evening he unloads and reloads the dishwasher, empties all the bins and cleans out under his bed in payment.

Thanks for your replies - As I expected DH is an old meany

DS was very aplogetic and asked whether I minded and didn't just assume that I'd take it in which is good

Have got DC5 due any day though, so will be reminding him tonight that runs to school with forgotten items will not be possible once I've got a newborn in tow!!!

Well, I wouldn't have taken it in. But then I'm not at home during the day, so he couldn't have contacted me. And they're not allowed phones in school, so he couldn't have contacted me either!

At our place if they are good reliable students and they very occasionally forget to bring in a piece of homework the day it's due, they are given the benefit of the doubt. (ie instead of an immediate on-the-spot detention, they get 24 hrs grace as long as they get it to the teacher the next day. At least that is what has happened to ds1. It's only been once or twice though, but I think that's the sort of common-sense approach that goes at their school.)

I take stuff in for my dd if she has forgotten it and I am around. It doesn't happen very often.
I forget things too sometimes and would hate for say, dh not to bring me something I had left and to tell me I would have to face the consequences!

Like TalkinPeace's style!!! I do occasionally - amybe twice a term - get a panicky call like this, and if I can, I will take it in -10 mins in the car. Usually tho' when DS set out for school I do tell him that I am in a meeting etc so he needs to double-check he has everything as I won't be able to help him if he has fogotten something.

I'd have taken it in!

You'll be grateful later on. I have, as an adult, looked over job applications/forwarded emails to my mother so she got the karma back.

Everyone needs help/forgets things and if it isn't a regular thing, it's kind to help out.