My son started secondary at the beginning of October. He only knew 3 other kids from his primary and only one of them he actually got on with. Anyway, almost a month in and he has no friends. Even worse, because of his awkward social skills, he's become known as a wierdo and is often called a creep. The other kids avoid him, sometimes laugh at him but never want anything to do with him. He spends every lunch time and break just wandering around on his own. I mentioned it to his form tutor last week and she said its still early and he will eventually settle in and find like-minded friends but I don't think he will. She suggested joining clubs etc, he has - he's joined a writing club, a film club, the gym, took up drums in a small percussion group but still nobody wants anything to do with him.
Last night he came home caked in mud, turns out his "friend" from primary has now turned against him (now that he's made other friends) and pushed him over into the mud causing a huge group of kids to crease over laughing at him.
I feel so sorry for him, I looked on his phone last night and he's tried to contact his old primary school friends about meeting up but they're not replying anymore, they've all made new friends at their secondary schools. He must feel so lonely.
He's never asked to stop off school though and still insists he loves the school and is there to learn (he's very academic) not to make friends but surely its not healthy when the only friends you have are people online that you've never actually met??? He tells me he doesn't want to make friends with anyone at the school because he doesn't like anyone.His social skills are poor, he's very stubborn and won't go out of his way to make friends.
What do I do??? 5 years is a long time to go with no friends.