DS started high school today and I'm worried about his smart arse attitude.

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don't get me wrong, he's been this way for the past few months

he seems to be really smart about everything and doesn't seem to care

its driving me nuts

he won't listen to me and trust me I've tried

anyone else with a smart 12 yr old ds? he even pisses off his wee brother

Seems typical for 12 year olds (not my DS fortunately). Just get English teachers on the subject of year 8, which I guess is th equivalent.

He should grow out of it, and a lot is bravado.

I hope he does grow out of it, I know a lot of it is bravado, its just so annoying

If it's any consolation, most kids like this cotton on pretty quickly what the consequences are for talking this way to teachers and can 'play the game' at school no problem. Be prepared to be told what a lovely polite boy he is at parents' evening

I'm sorry to say my DS has been like this since this age and is now 17 and gets more annoying each day. He is such a cocky little smartarse and we'd hoped he'd have grown out of it by now but sadly not.

Fingers crossed yours grows out of it quicker

Ha! My 15 year old is the same. Thankfully everyone who meets him says he is lovely so he is just a pain in the a*se at home!!! Only two and a half weeks and he'll back at school... Hurrah! I also found sending him to boarding school last year decreased my stress levels by about 98% despite still having 2 other DC at home!

I blame it on hormones and hope once he is out in the big wide world he'll appreciate us and realise what wonderful parents we are!:o

How are you Mumoverseas? Hope you are enjoying the hols. Fingers crossed for your DS1 on Thursday. Maybe he is just cocky because he is such a bright young man? Enjoy the rest of the holidays with them.

Good luck ssd.

mountaingirl lovely to see you.
I wouldn't exactly say we are enjoying the holidays, the 4 of them are driving me mad!
Know what you mean about stress levels decreasing, we had that when DD went to boardng school

I think DS is getting tetchy waiting for bloody exams results. Will be so glad when its over. At least for this year!

Are you taking DS back to school next month? We MUST arrange a meet up at some point if you are

What's he like at school though? Might be completely different.

thanks for all replies!

yep, just like the others here he is a lovely boy when he's out of the house! we always get compliments about him.......strange!

I know its all hormones and bravado, its just when I'm hormonal and tired we all clash!!

guess thats just family life.

Has my DS moved in with you???? He's now 17, but has been like this forever. I spent the whole of his time at secondary school waiting for him to come home have had his head kicked in. Miraculously, he never did and hasn't yet. Don't fret - they survive and you will too. :)

My 11 year old is like this- answering back. cocky....hope he gets sat on in year 7.
I want my boy back!!!

Prepare to judge me but I actually gave my smart arse 12 year old (who also started school) a wee smack in Tesco's the other day becuase he was being so arsey when we were trying to buy him a pencil case. Apparently I am so ancient I know nothing about what high school kids wear/have/ do, despite living virtually next door to a high school and passing hundreds of them in the street everyday (there was a strop this morning about how to tie his tie etc. too).

at smacking a 12yo

and at smacking him in public - how humiliating

if he's a bright boy he'll quickly learn that it is safer to be a smart arse at home than at school and will probably become intolerably pious and diligent at school

Not proud of myself for that, I am confessing on here to punish myself! DS1 really knows how to push my buttons and we are both hot-tempered but we are also very close and I always apologise if I lose my temper with him (and he is getting much better at apologising too, we are improving together).
He has an unblemished behaviour record at school and is always polite at others houses (he is even kind to other peoples little brothers!), it seems to be a common phenomenon, I'm sure your boy will be fine SSD.

Isn't it amazing how they are paragons of virtue at other people's houses.
wigglybeezer- I have been known to do the grip of death on the upper arm.

wiggly, far from judging you I commend your honestly. there are times I want to smack him in the chops but I know if I do I'll forget to stop......sometimes he's so nice and loving then he can suddenly be Kevin the teenager in the blink of an eye....

My DS1 has been like that since Yr1!! he goes into Yr7 in september he will have have just had his 12th birthday when he goes up.

He also loves the little kids shame he does'nt feel that way about Ds2 who 3 yrs younger!!

he's another one, who, when out and about, is very polite etc etc
at school and home he is a PITA,

SSD & DEADDEI - 'want to smack him round the chops' and 'death grip' at last people on the same wave lengh thought I was the only one who felt this way!!

WIGGLRYBEEZER - It takes an awful lot for me to lose my temper, however there have been times when he just goes on and on and on and on and on and on and on and on etc etc,
Im ashamed to say I give him a clip round the ear in ASDA once, I was trying to get the food shopping for the wake, for my nans funeral.
But I also apologise, after we've had words, or when Im wrong.

majafa, you sound a lot like us! ds2 is also 3 years younger and they fight continuosly, ds1 gives him a hell of a time and enjoys just winding him up all the time

what I'm finding is that dh and ds1 are really alike and clash non stop. its really getting me down. ds1 says that dh is always maoning at him and thats why ds1 moans at ds2, it just filters down the way. dh and ds1 are both driving me mad and I can only see it getting worse.

SSD - well my DH says its me who winds DS1 up!!
but I was never as rude and arrogant and down right horrible to my Mum like he can be, I wouldnt dare, and she didnt need to threaten us with 'wait till you father gets home either'
(strangely enough tho, hubbie can be all the above when he has a 'mood' on)
My mum only had to look at me and my sister and that was it and if need be she would give slap round the legs/arm what ever was nearest..
Me, Im pretty easy going but he certainly can push my buttons occasionaly.

snap! I can't imagine dh or myself talking to our parents like ds1 speaks to us, maybe memories blur, but he;s so rude sometimes, especially to dh, he makes me cringe sometimes. whats worrying me now is that I thought he'd grow out of it, but judging from these posts it lasts quite a few years yet!