Bullying

[prunella65]

Hi everyone. Looking for advice please. My DS was bullied very badly last week. Indecent image taken of him but he cant identify specific culprit. School know who did this but are refusing to tell us of the sanction taken against the child. We do not want DS to be in this persons class and want perpetrator removed however school cannot guarantee this and wont divulge persons name to us so we can insist there is no contact between them. Can schools refuse to tell you such info. Many thanks

Are the police involved?

Schools do not have to reveal sanctions or name names.

I'm so sorry. That's infuriating. I wonder if getting the police involved would help. I would think the police would be responsive when it comes to something involving an indecent image of a minor child.

Police are involved. Why do some schools not have to name names when the victim has no such anonymity? Friends who teach in schools have said that this is not the case in every school.
Again, those who do wrong in school are often treated much better than the poor people they bully in school.

You need to put your concerns in writing to the school today. Keep it clear and focussed.

Ask as well for the police contact and incident number and ring the police to speak to them about it.

I’d be inclined to keep your ds off school until they deal with this properly and ensure his safety. This is a horrible thing to happen.

From my experience with schools and bullying you need to be very proactive and strong on behalf of your child as a lot of them are pretty hopeless at dealing with these things.

Good luck

That's shocking, your poor ds. The school have a duty of care to keep your ds safe when he is at school and they are failing.
I would quote the shanarri tripe right back at them and girfec or girfme, think it might have changed.
Pretty sure you'll have done this but ask to see a copy of their bullying policy. Contact education department of your local authority and take it to them.
I really hope you do get it sorted out - we had similar issues with dd and ds and I totally understand how frustrating and upsetting it is for the whole family

Thanks everyone. Boy was punished but dont want him in class with my DS so waiting to see what adjustments they are going to make in order for this to happen.

I’m so sorry to hear this. GDPR will mean the school cannot, and should not, give anyone names. Infuriating for you- but is a legal requirement.

I understand this but cannot understand the reluctance to disclose the sanction given.
It seems quite wrong that all and sundry are aware of victims name but perpetrators are protected.
No doubt this is one reason why society is in the mess it is in.

I just wanted to pop on and say I am so sorry to hear about this. It’s appalling. I realise it’s a few weeks on from the incident. I really hope your son is doing okay.