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Exam results awards

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dancemom · 19/06/2021 19:16

The posts on Facebook have started this week and weekend, from cash for each A grade to designer jewellery, a shopping trip, even a holiday!

I actually hadn't contemplated anything other than going for dinner to celebrate / commiserate but does everyone else give cash / gifts etc?

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RedactedTaeFeck · 19/06/2021 19:24

We had a cash incentive, it worked for us, mostly... But we didn't crow on fb about it and told DSs not to talk about it with friends as they'd either end up disappointed or disappoint others. I have no idea if they stuck to that but no reason to believe they didn't.

AdvancedHigher · 20/06/2021 00:56

No cash incentives or gifts here . Just a card and lots of hugs Smile

WeAllHaveWings · 20/06/2021 01:13

Chinese takeaway and a bottle of Smirrnoff Ice here.

we are lucky he has already decided the course/uni he wants to apply too so achieving the grades he wanted/needed for that was the only reward he needed.

RaspberryCoulis · 20/06/2021 08:22

No gifts here either - it was definitely not a "thing" in my house growing up - it was expected that you do your best and I never got cash from parents for passing exams.

We did give DD some extra cash to go shopping and get a Nandos with her friends a couple of weeks ago in recognition of her effort, irrespective of the eventual grades. She worked really hard.

RedactedTaeFeck · 20/06/2021 08:29

To be fair, thinking about it, it probably didn't make a lot of difference. I think that when you grow up in poverty, you have an idea of what other DC got and you tend to overcompensate with your own children.

Lidlfix · 20/06/2021 08:46

We didn't do incentives/rewards DDs have different talents and qualities and exam results don't reflect that. DD2 who left school with the least Highers is now the one studying at the most prestigious uni as she went via college. DH and I have one Higher between us. I returned to education as a mature student and he has worked his way up through his profession and now interviews graduates. They know we value education but also hard work.

Groovee · 20/06/2021 09:48

A meal out was what we did.

My 2 always requested I didn't share the actual results on Facebook as they felt it was unfair as they are their results. I have always respected that.

forfucksakenett · 20/06/2021 10:37

@Lidlfix

We didn't do incentives/rewards DDs have different talents and qualities and exam results don't reflect that. DD2 who left school with the least Highers is now the one studying at the most prestigious uni as she went via college. DH and I have one Higher between us. I returned to education as a mature student and he has worked his way up through his profession and now interviews graduates. They know we value education but also hard work.
Absolutely this! Rewarding exam results with cash incentives makes me really sad. It's not ideal at all.
applesandpears33 · 21/06/2021 13:02

I did offer an incentive Blush but only out of desperation because I was concerned that DS wasn't doing enough work and was struggling with how to motivate him. To be honest, I think he did start taking the exams more seriously once he realised his friends were doing so too and am not sure that the cash incentive really worked. The cash incentive was conditional on him meeting certain grades so my money may be quite safe.

ElephantOfRisk · 21/06/2021 13:46

Our incentive was a certain amount for each grade so any pass would get something but the better grades got more. Then I think with DS2s last lot we offered a bonus amount based on improvements from prelim grades as we felt he'd been slightly disadvantaged by the original system. In the end they both probably made about £1k over the three years. It was probably more a case of building them up some funds for Uni as neither of them are spendthrifts which is probably why the money in itself wasn't really the main motivator.

WeAllHaveWings · 21/06/2021 13:59

@applesandpears33

I did offer an incentive Blush but only out of desperation because I was concerned that DS wasn't doing enough work and was struggling with how to motivate him. To be honest, I think he did start taking the exams more seriously once he realised his friends were doing so too and am not sure that the cash incentive really worked. The cash incentive was conditional on him meeting certain grades so my money may be quite safe.
It is great he realised in the end he had to do it for himself, or to keep up with/compete with his peers, that is something that will hopefully stick with him longer and he will take forward to his next exams or to do well in the workplace.

I had offered ds £20 for every A, but on condition he gave me £20 for every B/C. He declined 🤣

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