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Need to vent about school prizes!

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Toot · 07/09/2017 17:46

How does your school award prizes? Gutted for my child as she has all As and a B from this year's exam results but is getting zip at the school prize giving event later this term. Her older brother, now left the school, seemed to get more but school policy seems to be changing its focus over recent years. Bit gutted for her.

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Toot · 11/09/2017 21:14

If you get upset Wax it'll be because you are real - don't be embarrassed. Take a friend with you if DH isn't going. Perhaps jot down the points you want them to hear too (I know when I get upset things slip my mind) Dreadful how your poor son has been treated - really knocks my gripe into a tin hat!

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WaxOnFeckOff · 11/09/2017 21:44

Unfortunately DH doesn't do the type of job that allows him to take time off easily. I'll go myself, I'm actually quite used to dealing with conflict, i'm just feeling overemotional today and I am highly overprotective of my DC. I'm already making lists of points and DH is doing his too so that we can cover of everything. Things like being told that they had a good group in school to help pupils with social anxiety etc, however DS couldn't go as it was "just for girls"!

WaxOnFeckOff · 11/09/2017 21:45

Oh and it's not a competition :). I really feel for your DD too. injustice is injustice in whatever form it takes

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Toot · 11/09/2017 22:05

Just for girls! - Golly - does anyone say things like that anymore! Thanks for your sympathy for my DD xx

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WaxOnFeckOff · 11/09/2017 22:30

If the (Deputy Head) who told me that is at the meeting on Friday then I'll be telling him to leave and why.

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Toot · 12/09/2017 07:59

You must come back on and let us know how you get on Smile

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prettybird · 12/09/2017 08:31

Wow. Just wow. Shock and Sad and Angry

I can fully understand why you couldn't trust yourself to stay civil to him.

Good luck with your meeting with them. Even though it's unlikely to help ds1 much, it might make a bit of a difference for ds2. And other boys kids who are not being properly supported.

WaxOnFeckOff · 12/09/2017 18:10

Thanks ladies, no issues from school today but I do need to do the reply to escalate my previous complaint before I get started on this one.

In other (more positive) news DS1 had his 6th driving lesson today and did 3 point turns and also got up to 40 and into 4th gear! It felt like about 100mph I think :)

prettybird · 15/09/2017 16:04

How did the meeting today go? Hope you got your point across without getting too angry or upset.

WaxOnFeckOff · 15/09/2017 18:27

Thanks for asking PB.

Got a phone call first thing to say 2 of the 3 people I was due to meet were not available (sickness and emergency) but I went ahead an met with the remaining person and another turned up back towards the end of the meeting.

We only touched slightly on the award issue as we've not yet decided what action to take and also because the woman we were meeting was a support teacher and we wanted to actually focus on that for a bit. She did have some ideas and suggestions but it all seems too little too late to me and I don't have confidence that all/any of it will be put in place or achieve anything. I've left it in her hands and we agreed to meet in a month to discuss progress.

I now need another meeting to discuss other DS.

Also have a request for a meeting from education services about our other complaint. DH and I will discuss over the weekend to see if this is maybe where we can consolidate all our issues or whether we want to take the award thing down a different route instead (or as well as).

WaxOnFeckOff · 15/09/2017 18:28

Meat to say that I didn't get angry or upset because we were focusing on something else.

WaxOnFeckOff · 20/09/2017 20:59

I have the meeting with the council ed dept about my original complaint tomorrow. I think I am going to raise the whole prize giving issues etc then too.

I still haven't met with DS2s pupil support teacher. I called on Monday and offered a number of available times and also said if those weren't suitable to give me some options and I'd see what I could do. They were to call me back. No call on Monday or yesterday. Called to chase today and office staff starting to get arsey with me Hmm, someone supposed to call me back - no call back so far.

That's over 5 weeks now since I asked for an appointment to speak to my son's pupil support teacher. We are told that your first point of contact should always be the pupil support teacher. My DS2 says to me that he doesn't know why I am even bothering because the teachers really don't care - I don't really have any evidence to prove otherwise.

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