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School residential - AIBU

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ROSCO80 · 17/05/2023 20:10

DD has come home distraught. they are due to go on their school residential and was asked to name 2 friends they would like to share with. DD has not been roomed with either friend and has infact been put in a 2 bed dorm with a child she does not want to be with and whom we do not allow her to socialise.
Last year the school did a one night camp that my daughter did not do as we had plans already that weekend. The child she was paired with was the instigator of what i would deem very poor behaviour and unsafe behaviour in the middle of the night. I do not want my DD anywhere near this.
AIBU to say my DD is not to be isolated in a room with this child and that if nothing can be done I want a refund and she will not go? There are rooms of 4 available as some other children have been put in 4's

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doctorwhonerd · 17/05/2023 20:13

That's really strange, at my daughter's school they make sure everyone has AT LEAST 1 person they wanted. I don't think you're being unreasonable for being annoyed at that, I wouldn't want to share with 2 strangers on a residential at all.

Definitely talk to the school about it. And yeah if they say nothing can be done the least they can do is refund if possible.

steppemum · 17/05/2023 20:27

yes I would contact the school and say that you have safeguarding concerns around that child and so do not want dd sharing 1:1 with her.

She may end up sharing in a room of 4 with her though.

GiveOverRover · 17/05/2023 20:31

They might be trying to put the child in question in with someone sensible so the high jinks don't repeat, but sod your DD being her overnight minder, I'd definitely contact school and be clear.

Smartiepants79 · 17/05/2023 20:35

That’s very strange and yes, I’d contact school and be very firm.

Hellocatshome · 17/05/2023 20:36

Definitely contact the school.

milkysmum · 17/05/2023 20:41

Yep I would contact school, this seems really unfair on your dd.

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ROSCO80 · 17/05/2023 20:52

I have no objections if they were to merge their room for 2 with a room for 2 which has 2 of the friends she named. It feels like my daughter keeps being singled out by the school as she is sensible and would not do anything wrong.

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GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 25/05/2023 12:09

I’d definitely speak to them, and keep pressing until they shift. That’s really awful of them.

purplecorkheart · 25/05/2023 12:15

ROSCO80 · 17/05/2023 20:52

I have no objections if they were to merge their room for 2 with a room for 2 which has 2 of the friends she named. It feels like my daughter keeps being singled out by the school as she is sensible and would not do anything wrong.

Please speak to the school. I was like your daughter in school and was always the good one who was lumped with someone who behaviour was challenging. I ended up not enjoying school trips and advents because I was looking after other people.

70sTomboy · 25/05/2023 12:38

Christ Almighty, they still do this? I had this in 1978! Definitely speak to school. Your child is not another's minder. I was put with the most disliked girl whose behaviour whilst not too bad did not endear herself to others. My friends were put together, and I was put in with madam-no- mates.

caringcarer · 25/05/2023 14:08

Smartiepants79 · 17/05/2023 20:35

That’s very strange and yes, I’d contact school and be very firm.

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