I worked an extremely demanding, busy job as a single parent 8 years ago. It was incredibly hard juggling DC, job mortgage, housework, me actually having time for me! I only had limited childcare, DH left and didn’t pay maintenance so o didn’t really have a choice, if I didn’t have childcare no matter day/night/weekend DC came with me, I was exhausted but looking back I think I thrived on it, it made me tick, I was the breadwinner, I was in charge at work (top managerial level) it worked, as hard as it was.
Roll forward to now, I am recently married with another DC, DH is breadwinner, great job, managerial, excellent salary. There’s no money stress (my old mortgage was so high on my own), there’s no job stress, we agreed I’d be a SAHM because I wanted to experience it properly this time. I missed out on so much with DC1, it was literally up, nursery drop off, work, nursery pick up, home, dinner, bed etc. DH was so supportive of this and we agreed I’d get a job when DC was around 2. I hate it, I hate the same thing every single day, we go for a walk, the park, meet friends, play groups. I just want to go back to my old job (which I can’t now) but am I wasting this precious time and I’ll be disappointed in myself when DC is bigger? I feel like my brain isn’t stimulated at all, I need problems to solve, situations to sort out, I just want to be busy, I’ve redecorated our house five times, I’ve fitted panelling in every room, I’m constantly looking at projects at home or things I can create to sell in the evenings when DH has finished work or weekends when he’s free.
Ok now I’ve typed this out Im wondering if I need a therapist! Stay at home mums or dads, what do you do if your like me? DC is 14 months.