So lonely and frustrated

[Stressedoutmummyof3]

Just that really. I'm so fed up being a SAHM but I can't change that so I know I need to kind of change my mindset. So I'm looking for tips on how I can actually enjoy being a SAHM and stop missing my colleagues and work life.

Why can’t you go back to work part time?

I’m sahm and it can be very isolating. Why can’t you go back to work if you miss it? There is nothing wring with working or being a sahm, different things work for different people. At the moment I am trapped as a sahm due to children’s disabilities and their issues.

Is your child young? Do you get out and about?

Why is it not changeable?

I loved being a SAHM but I am pretty unsociable and ND. It definitely isn’t for everyone.

My youngest two are autistic. My youngest can't even manage 3 hours a day at school (he's 5) so due to this I don't even get to see other mum's at pick up/drop off. He also has a lot of appointments and while DH is competent to take him to some of them no new employer is going to let me have loads of time off.
Evening work wouldn't really be feasible either. It can take ages to get DS to sleep although this is getting a bit better. DH and I do tend to support each other with this.
My middle DC has high functioning autism but last year began suffering from frequent seizures meaning she does need more support and sometimes ends up in hospital
I agreed to give up work but I always thought it would be short term. With my little boy's issues I don't see how I can go back to work but I miss it.

I can related @Stressedoutmummyof3. My plan was to go back to work this year but my oldest is in burn out and managing 2 or maybe 3 seperate one hour sessions at school a week, in those days I have 20 mins alone before it’s time to collect my youngest. My oldest needs me to go and stay asleep.

I wish I had a solution for you but I don’t. My autistic child is older so can be left to her on devices a bit if DH is wfh so I can have an occassional coffee with Mum friends.