Lonely SAHM

[LoveFridaynight]

In the last few months I have become better at being a SAHM. I have found more of a routine and DS is now doing 2 hours at school.
Yet I'm still so bored. Could I go back to work? Maybe but there are lots of reasons why not. DS has additional needs and several appointments a month which I can obviously deal with now. DH isn't keen because he thinks I will be too stressed, it will eat in to weekends and one of us will need regular time off.
I don't really get time off. DH is at work all week and Saturday he spends a lot of time on his hobby. Sunday is our day as a family so if I take time for myself on Sunday we loose that family time.
All my friends are working at least part time and family is a bit complicated since my mum died.
Any tips on reducing boredom? I'm not very outgoing and very self conscious about my appearance and age
At the moment days consist of drop off at school, dash home to do some housework, pick DS up at take him swimming/soft play or park and lunch. Usually more cleaning and dinner prep before DH and teenagers get home.
I should love being at home but I just find it lonely

Some sort of volunteering?
Food bank, local library, old people's support services, school etc

Exercise class
Craft group

God, I wouldn’t contemplate not going back to work. DH will just have to deal. He seems deeply unbothered that you’re lonely and bored as a SAHM six days a week, so I’d just suit myself. Surely between you, you can arrange things so that one of you can take your child to appointments?

The main problem with working is his school hours. He only does 2 hours a day. CM is incredibly expensive because of his additional needs.
I keep suggesting DH goes part time, say 3 days a week and I get a job on the other 2. He is really against it. I know in his job it's hard to go part time but not impossible. And it comes back to the argument that I agreed to be a SAHM. I did but I honestly thought DS would be at school full time by now (so I could go part time) but there's no sign of him being ready for that yet.
I mean I could ignore DH and get a job but if I do that I can't really expect DH to help out with appointments/school runs as I've totally ignored his opinion.

I guess options would be to work a few days a week and suck up childcare costs on those days or think about evenings or weekends so DH would be there.

Other thing would be to look at an exercise class, hobby or volunteering that you could do straight after dropping DS at school, I do an exercise class straight after drop off a day a week and have made a friend I have coffee with afterwards which I enjoy.

Perhaps you could attend a ASN session with your son in the afternoons, our local forest school offer these and it’s good for the kids and also gives opportunities for parents in similar positions to socialise.

Your DH also doesn’t have free ride to do no housework or appointments with DS just because your SAHM so don’t become the household slave.