Do you ask for help when you're ill

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Be honest with me. If you were sick in the night and still felt dizzy the next day would you ask your partner to stay home? Or is it pathetic?
Normally I wouldn't as I do have teenagers to help but they are both away with grandparents at the moment.
So it's me and 4 year old (with complex needs so physically a 4 year old but mentally a 2 year old). I can't even stand up but DH said no so I guess that's it.
Downside to being a SAHM no sick pay or leave.

I would ask my close friends if they could look after my kid first and if they couldn't then yes, if was too sick to parent, I would expect him to stay at home.

If I couldn't stand up, I wouldn't be able to parent a child of that age.
When our kids were small DH was self employed and often worked away, so I've parented on my own through all types of illness. (Mine and kids)
In your circumstances, I'd expect him to stay home. Is there a specific reason why he can't? Or can't today? Or is it won't?

If I was ever too sick to parent the children safely then yes of course Dh would stay home. However, before I became a sahm Dh and I both worked and shared the dreaded nursery sick days so he also had to take time off work to look after his own child whilst I worked.

With me being a sahm this need to take the day off became something incredibly rare so once in a blue moon when I was unwell he either worked from home or had to take the day off depending on the age of the children at the time.

I think your Dh leaving you poorly with a child with additional needs is disgusting. I hope the next time he is ill you do nothing to help him in any way shape or form.

Yes, at any sign of me being unwell my husband asks if I’d like him to stay home and look after our toddler. I’ve never been ill enough to say yes, but he would always check if I need him, even if I just have a headache.
The fact your husband won’t help out when you’re struggling to stand is crazy to me!

Had to look after my 18 month old alone while violently vomiting and pregnant once and vowed I would never do it again. Norovirus is a line in the sand for me, if I'm vomiting I take to my bed and don't come out again until it's stopped. DH just has to manage in the same way a single parent would have to. I think you just have to make these rules for yourself to protect your wellbeing, if you're too sick you're too sick and that's the end of it.

He didn't want to take the day off because he's saving holiday for later in the year. Not sure why as we're not going anywhere. And said he wasn't taking dependency because it's unpaid.
I have pretty much stayed on the sofa all day, but had to support myself leaning on furniture to get DS food and drink.
I just feel a bit upset that he didn't even come home early. His workplace is really flexible, a few weeks ago they let DH go home on the spur of the moment so we could go out for the afternoon.