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AIBU??? Arguments at home

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PomPomBear88 · 29/12/2023 12:10

Wasn’t sure where to post this so ended up here.

I am a stay at home parent during the day (other than 2 half days per week where toddler is at nursery) and I work part time during the week but on the evening 6-9pm.

my partner works full time during the day and has toddler for few hours during the evening and puts DC to bed whilst I am work.

partner also has teenager from a previous relationship that he sees every weekend.

more and more arguments keep arising because I think partner could help out more with chores around the house as it’s becoming more difficult to manage everything whilst having a toddler who constantly wants my attention so spends a lot of her time whining when I’m doing everything around the house. Partner does work full time during the week and says that this is the reason why he doesn’t really help out as I have a lot more time on my hands. I happily do what I can during the week without moaning about it because I do agree that I obviously have a lot more time than DP. However, even on weekends DP still doesn’t put much input (if any) into helping around the house and with toddler. I just feel I never ever get a break whilst partner seems to spend his weekends more or less doing the things he “wants” rather than helping out with stuff that needs doing.

Arguments are becoming so heated and partner says that I’m one causing the arguments and such an unhappy environment when I become so overwhelmed. I’m at the point where I’m questioning if I’m the one at complete fault. Can I ask peoples honest opinions please?

i just feel awful.

thanks!

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bootthebox · 08/01/2024 17:56

@PomPomBear88 this board isn't very busy, usually this falls under relationships. Sorry this hasn't really been answered.

What was he like before your child was born? Was there a fair division of labour? Stop calling it "helping around the house" helping someone implies that it is their job, it isn't just your job to clean and sort the house. He is an adult living in it, he needs to adult and stop ducking out of his responsibility.

I do feel like he has more "down time" than you ie time without a toddler. Why would he think that is fair? Why don't you take yourself out of the house at some point on the weekend and leave him with the toddler to deal with so he gets one on one time and maybe as he deems this an easy time for you to get housework done, he can breeze through the housework in your absence. Start claiming time for yourself, stop expecting him to let you have it.

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