Do you do everything? Ironing etc?

[Piscesmumma1978]

Do you iron your dhs clothes and do all the washing etc?

I'm starting to get sick of it now. If I work part time I'll still do it all but work as well.

Just wondered how everyone else manages things at home.

I hate ironing, and nowadays I do practically none. Stuff gets put in the dryer and hung up straight away, or hung up straight out of the washer to dry if it's not suitable for the dryer. I iron the occasional cotton blouse for me. DH irons his own stuff if he wants to but his is dryer or hung too. I do the laundry, but it's not exactly hard work.

I iron his work shirts and trousers. Anything he wants ironed that’s not for work he has to do himself. Thank you for reminding me I have ironing to do.

I have always had to do everything. While the kids little I only did so much. If he wanted a spotless house he could help. He didn’t help so we lived in mess most of the time. All kids at school so am happy to do everything but that will change when I go back to work.

Men get a choice.

It is either a ‘partner’ who does literally everything, and feels like an employee, or worse, skivvy (and who wants an intimate relationship with their employer / master?)….

…or they recognised the above ^ set-up breeds resentment and basically kills any sort of sex life. That is^ what happens.

Up to the man.

When I was a sahm I did all the housework and cooking. I didn’t iron my husbands clothes though unless it was as a favour like he was running late for work. He worked 6 days a week with long commute and long hours so he had very minimal jobs within the home like diy, putting bins out on a Sunday and of course ironing all his own clothes and sorting his own washing which I would occasionally wash.
I felt this balance felt fair and I didn’t feel resentment for it.

Update.

I actually have an extra child it seems. I told him I'm not doing it anymore because I feel like his employee. He's now not doing his 2 house jobs like he used to. It's pathetic.

Time to get a job and look at my options I think. Not married and not on the mortgage so in a very vulnerable position.

Ps zero sex life here. Would happily have separate bedrooms at the moment but don't have a spare room. I go to bed before him!

Sorry. He sounds pathetic.

How thoroughly off-putting.

I so understand the feeling of being an employee. When I found myself ironing pants I gave myself a good talking to and haven’t looked back since.

When I was a SAHP u did everything Monday to Friday. Weekends were shared. When I started working parttime we divided it up when I went full-time we went half half. Now I work part time again but dh works from home more he still does near half but he makes more mess 😃

I'm a SAHM with 3 children (15, 11, 7 ) and have been since our youngest was born with severe disabilities.

No I don't do everything, I get them off to school, do a load or two of washing per day, DH puts it away when he gets home, I load the dishwasher and empty it, cook dinner 3/4 days, usually prep it in the AM, DH makes dinner the rest if the time.
I do the big cleaning jobs as and when during school hours as it's easier without children around.
Dh does the lawn care at the front and I do the back.
He does every bath time for DS7 ( sometimes with help most times not ) and I help DD11 with her hair ( very long, her choice ) We both shout at DS15 it's time for a shower 😂
DH makes DD11 packed lunch the night before and I make DS7s in the morning as it needs to be freshly made.

I would say it's a 60/40 share which I'm happy with tbh.
It wasn't always this way, DH has had to be trained and told, especially when we only had one child but he has gotten better and more understanding with each child.