Having real difficulty making friends

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Hi I don't know what to do anymore. I'm a stay at home mum to my 1yo and 4yo and I've got a lovely supportive partner but I am painfully lonely. It seems since I've had kids all my friends have dissappeared. Sometimes it upsets me more than other days but I've recently started doing the school run and it seems everyone has mum friends except me. I do stick out a bit, I don't look or dress like the other mums. I'm quiet but not shy and I do try make conversation with people and I'm smiley and friendly to everyone. Nobody seems to want to be friends with me. I have nobody to call or invite round for a cuppa. Its heartbreaking when my little girl asks who my friends are and I just have to say her and daddy. I just really wish I could have 'the girls' to go out with like everyone else seems to. I really need help on how to make friends it's really getting me down 😔

No advice but I'm in the same boat. I've gone to so many toddler groups and didn't manage to make any friends. Now I'm doing the school run and so many people know each other and I only know a couple of people to say hello to, but no actual friends. It's really hard.

I feel your pain. I was the same and went to baby groups and I seemed not to have anyone. So one morning I went to baby group and literally forced myself to speak to one of the mums saying how lovely her child was and I put myself out there and said we should swop numbers and meet up and I got her number and I made the effort to text and asked her to meet up at the park and then I did this several times with other mums and now I have a lovely group. You have to put yourself out there. It's hard but worth it

This might be a cliche, but I was the similar. When DD started school we didn't know anyone there, we'd opted for a school her nursery friends weren't going to, so she was the new girl no-one knew (she'd not attended the preschool) & therefore I didn't know anyone either.
In the second week I joined the PTA - I wanted to be involved in the school, do my bit to help out, but also try & get to know people.
It really worked - I had people to talk to in the playground; I became the Chair & now pretty much everyone knows who I am & I have a great circle of mum friends across the year groups, know the teachers & Head & know all about what events are planned for the year.
Might be worth exploring?