Do you get a break?

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Do you get any sort of break, childminder or nursery (or school if school age.) I’m just curious. Mostly because I’m knackered

I was a SAHM for 3 years also caring for my mum (she was in her own home nearby, needed lots of support). When DS was 2 I put him in a nursery two mornings a week as I found it so hard doing two school runs a day, managing the house, meals for everyone, entertaining DS and caring for my mum. At the weekends DH would generously "give me space" to finish the housework

After 3 years I got a FT job, a cleaner, and put DS in nursery FT and then DH pulled his weight.

You are not an indentured servant; you deserve some time for yourself. No one should have to work 24x7.

I've been a SAHM for nearly 9 years and only got regular breaks when my two became entitled to their free 15 hours at nursery. I then got 2.5 days a week to catch up on housework or do something for myself. During half term and holidays both sets of grandparents will take them for odd days if I ask but I don't ask often.

With hindsight, I should've taken more time for interests of my own. The problem is accepting your lot and not asking for that 'time off'. Just ask, as your family or husband may be unlikely to offer.

Yes, I get a break. Less so from my exclusively breastfed 4 month old (although DH does take him + toddler out of the house for 2-3 hours one weekend morning, which is enough for now!), but my 2.5yo also goes to nursery 3 mornings a week and spends the odd day/afternoon with my mum or my SIL and nephews.

4mo currently doesn't take a bottle, but once he's started solids in a couple of months (and getting a decent amount down), I'll feel more comfortable taking a bit more time away from him and very much plan to. I did not do this when my eldest was younger (bc of covid, how I parented and my anxiety) and it almost killed me.

No. I always have at least one child with me

Dp works and has nights away. Apparently he doesn't get a break either... I'm currently looking for a job to leave him. Worse mistake I ever made was giving up my job.

Oh, God no! 😂

No, but it's my choice. My little one will be 16 months old 2 days after Christmas and I'm not ready to be away from him. Grandparents would have him if I wanted them to but I would just panic and hate it so I wouldn't do it 🤷‍♀️ I won't leave him with anyone until he can talk and even then it will be very rarely as you don't get these years back and it goes so fast.

I do get little 'breaks' when his dad's off work as he'll often keel him upstairs and entertain him for a few hours in the morning and there's always when he's in bed too 🤷‍♀️