How life has changed i now find the days very dull and boring are you in some position?

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I have 2 kids age 8 and 6 since the youngest was born ive been a sahp whilst husband works and although hard at times, I loved it! the baby groups, the time spent with them, seeing them grow up ect
When youngest started school 2 years ago my plan was to get back into work although it materelise finding a job in school hours/term times is not easy!

So now im still at home 6 hours a day whilst there at school and im so bored! How life has changed!
I have tues-friday that I need to entertain my self(Monday is husbands day off so we have the day together )and I do volunteer at school on 1 of those 4 other days but its only for a few hours. Theres 3 whole days where I'm just so fed up theres only so much cleaning, gardening, watching TV you can do!!

We lost our dog 2 years ago so I don't even go dog walking any more we need to get another doggy to get active more. I have friends but not many id meet up as they work or live far away from me and were quite secluded in our village. I don't know what to do im just stuck in a rut I think .
My house is so organised and tidied i honestly don't think I can do much more to it now, anyone else in this situation what do you do to keep your self occupied? I do love being a phone call away if kids are ill or they want me to come see the school production ect and im looking forward to the holidays having them home thanks for reading

Volunteer for the Samaritans or Childline?

Find work online where you work from home?

Check out the local college for courses to bring any skills (such as IT) up to date?

Take up a martial art, weight training or other sport/exercise?

Try and find other women who also are at home and do some activities together? Book Club?

Get involved in local politics?

Jobs that aren’t school hours only? Pay for after school clubs / brekkie clubs.

join a gym, do volunteer work, online jobs?

Take an online or real life course in something that interests you.

Get an allotment, grow your own fruit, veg, flowers, herbs etc

Daily work outs.

Start a small business you can do from home.

Do you have any neighbours who work and might need help with dog walking? My mum has a neighbour who takes her dog out for a walk when she's at work. He's retired and asked if she'd mind if he borrowed the dog. She'd been going home every lunchtime until then so jumped at his offer. He doesn't charge her so it's not a business set up where he has to organise cover. If he's got plans or is going away he just lets her know and she goes back home at lunchtime.

I went back to work when my DC started school. It has been great and I really love my job now.

I would widen your job search to include jobs that aren't school hours only, and make use of after school club or an after school childminder.

While you are looking for jobs you could do things like take up an exercise/sport like yoga etc, podcasts, reading, could go to college and do a course in something you might enjoy, there all sorts of short courses.

Schools are desperate for support staff.

What job did you do before you had kids?

As pp said, don’t limit yourself to term time only jobs, which are gold dust but also rarely have an option to progress. You may well feel lonely because most households now have two earners.

What interests you? What do you want to do? You don’t have to go back to what you may have done before, you could train in anything!!

Why does it have to be school hours only? Most working parents have jobs outside of school hours and we just make use of school wraparound clubs or childminders etc.

OP, don't be daft, you don't need a school hours job! You can get a job with normal
Hours and it is imperative you do so. You are extremely vulnerable being dependent on a man.

Tell DH it's his turn to work round the kids, you've done 8 years and your financial security especially pension has suffered.

I was a sales supervisor.
But our company was put into administration just before I had the youngest

I really really don't want to pay out again on childcare I already done that the 1st time round and its extortionate an absolute rip off I effectively worked to put my eldest into their care and I missed out on a lot.
My childhood memories is me being given to family members so my parents could work constantly and I don't want that for my kids.

I do love just being able to go and see the kids performances and be there for them at pick up and drop off I just need something to keep me occupied in those days

I've just emailed the school offering my self basically to do anything! And I think I'm going to look into a collage course though not too sure where to start on that

There is surely a middle ground between your description of your childhood and your current set up. And even from the children's perspective, there is a value in having a mum who is vibrant, fulfilled, has things to talk about and a life of her own. Mine love hearing about my job! And it is also no harm that you are occasionally NOT avaiable to them. You could go to college, work part time, volunteer to a greater extent than you are or in a more strategic way (with your sales background). And if you're bored now, wait til the teenage years when they still need you but in a very different and less time consuming way. Lean into change OP and don't be afraid to put your needs at the centre of it..

I work full-time in a highly responsible/stressful role, as does my husband. I've never missed a school performance, event etc, and between my husband and I we're at the school gates 7 out of 10 times a week. The others we use childminder. Childcare should be team work and companies are now usually very flexible with when you work your hours. I'm a strong believer that woman should be financially independent and think it sets a good example for the next generation. If can work if you want it to.

Same as @Scottishgirl85 DH and I both work FT and miss nothing. If your DH is off Mondays then you could at least work a full day Monday.

If you wanted to work then you’d work. Schools are crying out for support staff. Using a childminder for wrap
around isn’t as expensive as when they’re little. If you don’t want to work and can afford not to (for now anyway) you don’t need to make up excuses to make yourself feel better.

It may help to just sit down with a piece of paper and write down pros and cons of working and list your priorities are at this stage in your life as well as possible solutions to things you are mulling over. You will have it infront if you and it might help you decide what is best for you. I feel you are a little conflicted in what you want. In two minds almost, writing it all down might just help you.

Get a job!
Get a hobby!

Hey, have u tried applying for being a lunchtime organiser or a kitchen assistant in schools. Most of them start at around 11 till about 3ish. Plus u get all skool holidays off paid. Worth a look, also wud u register with a recruitment agency that just specialises in skools.

You can work part time - say 2 or 3 days per week and use childcare before and after school on those days only. Your kids will probably enjoy hanging out with other kids there and doing fun activities.