Do I get Dads fiancé something for Mother’s Day?

[Bythefire90]

Hello!

My dads fiancé is a year younger than me, no DC of her/their own, I have 2 DC. She doesn’t make an effort particularly with me or my children but I get on well with my dad so try for him. Should I be getting her anything for Mother’s Day? Moneys tight and I’ve bought my mum some bits but don’t really know if I should his fiancé.

@happymummy12345 yes.. this is what we do.. kind of. We give cards and gifts to parents, grandparents/step-grandparents on Mother’s/Father’s Day and any single parents in the family because they have no partner to buy them anything, it’s just always been normal to extend the love on those days. Nothing huge, just a card from us and cakes/flowers.

I honestly didn’t realise my question was so silly to some 🙈

I’m a step mum. My step kids give me something every year which is lovely but not compulsory plus I’ve been in their lives since they were about 5 and so helped bring them up. In your case no, she’s not maternal /mothering to you or your kids.

She probably doesn’t see herself as either a mum or a gran & might be offended if the kids give her anything. But that applies both ways - you and (your kids) don’t have to make a big deal about their future kids due to the age gap.

It’s not a silly question! Ignore the keyboard warriors.

Lol

No.

@DeepThinkingGirl I didn’t even think of her or my dad being offended you know 😆🙈 you might have a point there!

Just for clarification, I wasn’t going to get her a Mother’s Day card, just some cakes or flowers, it would obviously be odd if I referred to her as mum and my actual mum would be furious at me.. rightly so 😂

I have a step mother and a step father (neither of whom brought us up) and nope, no way. Token bday card to my dad's wife, who isn't interested in me or mine.