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A place for stay at home mums and dads to discuss life as a full-time parent.

What do you do with your days?

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Doxylover30 · 13/10/2020 00:00

Hi,
I'm a SAHP to my beautiful 1 year old son, to be quite honest I love it (I don't mean to brag or make anybody feel bad at all) my partner is also currently still working from home since March so we have been fortunate to have him home too although we don't spend time with him during the day he is still in the same room. He is on a very comfortable salary and I get a decent amount of an allowance so there is money for me to do things with out son. I can't help feeling like I am letting him down though. He is the first child in my DP family for 20 years and my family for 27 years so their are no youngsters, we're also the first of our friends to have a child (we are 30 and 31,so not mega young) so I don't have any experience of looking after or even being around a child. I have no idea what to do with him, especially as we are in lockdown and there aren't any groups open in my local area where we can go and meet other parents and children. I don't feel like I am doing enough for him and feel awful. Usually we get up in a morning, have breakfast and then a play until his first nap, we either then play a bit more with his toys or I take him for a walk to our local park with our dog and then he will have his second nap before dinner and DP finishes work. We then play with his toys until his bedtime, we also read alot. He isn't one for sitting still lol but he is doing brilliantly, reaching all his milestones and walking, I have no worries there. But because he seems so intelligent I feel like I am boring him. Does anybody have any suggestions or ideas of what I can do with him during the day?

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Bingbongbinglybong · 13/10/2020 02:32

It sounds perfect tbh. 1:1 attention , fresh air, exercise ("gross" motor skills) as well as lots of play. You are definitely not failing or boring him.

As he gets older you can start doing more - make dens in the living room to hide in, do some finger painting, play with different textures (eg drive toy cars through flour, play with water).

Being around other kids does become more important but for now he is probably ok. My DS (nearly 2) lights up when his big sister plays with him, and two mornings of nursery a week are helping with his social skills which is my expensive substitute for all the groups we are sadly missing out on.

Joeyandpacey · 28/11/2020 13:45

Sounds about right. Think of the day as small chunks rather than one long eternity. Try to think more about following his lead than entertaining him. What’s he looking at, what noises is he making, where does he want to move to in the house? These are the things that will really light him up. What can you do while he’s napping to feel invigorated? Sleep? Read? Clean the kitchen. Personally I always slept and read so I felt like I had baby time and my personal adult time.

Margo34 · 09/12/2020 08:27

I've just bought a pack of 'busy brains' activity cards and the suggestions of activities are simple things things to do at hone, seems good so far but I've only bought one pack. I'd buy another.

www.busybrainsactivitypacks.co.uk/

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