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A place for stay at home mums and dads to discuss life as a full-time parent.

Feeling lost!

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mamawithfive · 07/10/2020 14:33

Hi
Not sure this is the right place to post this.
I’m a SAHM, my hubby works, fairly long hours but we see him frequently and he’s great with the children and work helping with the house etc - weekends are great we are usually out as a family.
We live abroad, and generally love our lifestyle - but now the children are all at school, I feel lost.
I’m still learning the language, so not really ready to consider work.
Friends wise is where I am really stuck. I connected with some other expat mums earlier in the year, and we met up a lot with the younger children, and all got on well. Obviously then lockdown happened, and we have been on small group meet ups ever since - so not been many chances to meet as parks etc are still closed.
However, I noticed on social media this week, that a few of the mums had been out for drinks one evening, and planned to go again next week - we have a group on FB and are all FB friends yet no one asked me if was interested in going along! I feel so gutted, and unwanted. Keep thinking there must be something terribly wrong with me as I just feel like I’ve been completely forgotten about!
I actually don’t have anyone here I can call a friend, and I don’t know how to go about finding any - as the mums I met don’t appear to be interested!
What to other SAHP do to connect with other adults when you don’t work? How do you make friends as a grown up - especially if you’ve moved away.
Sorry, just feeling a bit sorry for myself at the moment!!

OP posts:
FTMJ2020 · 09/10/2020 08:14

Hi,
Sorry to hear about the mums on the Facebook group. That's rubbish. I don't know if I have any particular advice, but I live abroad too - my partner and I have moved around a lot and as I've got older I've generally found it more challenging to make friends as people tend to have their own lives all set up already, and when I do meet up with other people it tends to be for a coffee or something maybe once a week, I try to remind myself that it takes a long time to build a friendship on that!
Could you find a language exchange partner who wants to practise their English who could help you with your language maybe? Or there might be a language exchange group somewhere in your town? Maybe online to start with? That would give you a concrete reason for meeting up....
Anyway, I know that living abroad had loads of plus points, but it can feel super lonely sometimes too.

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