Help going out of my mind !

[Georginamummy]

DD is 12months and is currently rocked to sleep which is draining me both physically and emotionally as this can take me sometimes over an hour to put her to sleep.

She also wakes up through the night a few times and sometimes needs to be rocked back to sleep or I sit on the floor an tap while she's in the cot. She is currently having either 1 or 2 extra feeds a night. DD was an amazing sleeper she used to sleep thought the night no feeds etc.

But for the past several months always wakes up an stands up in cot wanted to be picked up.

I tried the sleep training method tonight an lasted 4mins as she puked up. I felt so bad came running in am comforted and jus did the usual rocked to sleep.

I just don't know what to do anymore an how to make her learn to self soothe an sleep.

Please any advice would help???

Yes that’s tough I bet you’re exhausted
You know the answer already reduce the rocking to sleep it’s now a terrible habit
She’ll cry, you will cry but this cannot be sustained. Really

Ok I suggest you gradually reduce over a week a sliding time scale leading to no rocking to sleep

Get some nice lights to project in wall to distract her, music too
Warm bath to settle
Introduce a new routine

Next baby don’t be rocking them to sleep

Please remember this is just a phase and it won’t last forever (even though it seems like it will)

I don’t have the best advice as I had a terrible sleeper with my child and for my own sanity ended up co sleeping 😂

Have you tried laying next to her in the cot and gently placing her back down next to you, stroking her face and singing a lullaby?

I’m not a big fan of the cry it out method.

But I think as your child has grown she now needs a new bed time routine as this one is not working for either of you.

Have you tried laying next to her in the cot and gently placing her back down next to you, stroking her face and singing a lullaby?

My god that’s too immersive, she’s trying to reduce the contact. I can’t see how hopping into the cot to sing and stroke the child face is helping to reduce dependency
I never co-slept with any of my dc, also I had to be up for work so it was never an option

I made this mistake with my son.. it's exhausting.. in the end I just gradually reduced contact.. so I'd rock for a while and then put in cot but I'd stay next to the cot humming.. then eventually I'd sit in the chair in the corner humming. Then silently..then I'd move to the door.. it took a while but I tried everything else and this is what worked for me!
He's amazing now.. he's in a toddler bed and he climbs into bed himself I give him a kiss and leave.
if he woke in the night.. I wouldn't get him out his cot.. id stroke his head and then gradually move away and sit in the chair and hum/shhh so he could hear me then eventually cut it down and he learned to settle himself. He still wakes in the night but he'll chatter and might get up and wander round his room for a minute but I never have to go in, he takes himself back to bed.
It's so tempting to rock them to sleep as it can be quicker/easier sometimes but persevere it is worth it long term! X