Are we all sinking?

[crazybutkind]

I am losing it.

Got a 2 year old, 30 weeks pregnant SPD and I am lost.

I want to go upstairs shit the door and never come back down.

If they were worried about mental health before this they should be seriously worried now.

I can't walk, stand or sit. My DD is getting frustrated and upset that I can't lie on the floor and play with her, cant go on walks all the rest. My only form of 30 mins "me time" is a drive. Can't do that anymore either.

Partner working on hospitals in construction currently building emergency morgues.

Our house is filled with tension and negativity.

Please someone tell me they are going through this

It sounds like you’re struggling, try to take things 10 minutes at a time, this situation will not last forever. It’s really, really hard right now, but it will pass.
I know support networks are difficult at the moment, but could you skype or FaceTime relatives or friends?
My 2 yr old is happy for an hour or so at a time standing on a chair ‘washing up’ at the kitchen sink, could be an idea.
I hope things improved or you.

Also, could you call your midwife for support or advice?

A run down of today so far...she woke at 7 since then we have played with the toll house, made our own breakfast wraps, did painting gluing and sticking, played kitchen, done washing up at the sink, watched 10 mins of her favourite film, did some colouring in, she helped put the washing on the line, washed hands about 20 times, jumping on the bed, about 10 mins iPad time I'm just about to go outside so she can wash her cars.

What am I doing wrong? She just doesn't seem happy and I am doing my best.

You’re not doing anything wrong, it sounds like you’re doing a brilliant job of providing interesting activities ... but perhaps your little one knows that things are changing and doesn’t like it(?) I don’t know, 2 year olds are such hard work some days and being pregnant is hard work some days too. Would she enjoy a story? Do you have outside space? Sometimes chalk on the patio or painting outside can hold interest for longer. I hope tomorrow is better.
How are you feeling?

Majority of those activities have been outside today. She won't come inside now. I had chalks out on the decking, a big cardboard box which we painted and decorated and made into a den, water play with different sized containers and spoons, plus her ride on toys, slide and swing. I currently have a 2 year old screaming because I have closed the patio door while I try and make tea. A say currently....I did until she settled for a jelly and her iPad.

Nothing wrong with a bit of jelly and iPad - it sounds like she’s had a very exciting sat! I hope you’re ok and get some decent sleep tonight.

*day (not sat)

For anyone still watching I need a hand hold. I have cried pretty much all day so far and it's not even 10:30 I can't do this for the next however many months anyone else want to vent or share what they are doing with their toddlers?

I'm still sinking and very close to rock bottom

It sounds like you are doing a brilliant job as a mum, with all those activities for her, but the SPD is getting you down. Can you get any help for that from your midwife?

I sometimes found that listening to CDs of nursery rhymes was helpful around that age.

To give you a bit of peace try cocomelon on YouTube my 2 year old goes in a trance absolutely loves the songs as does my niece you need to give yourself a break it'll not harm her to sit and watch something for a bit. Take care you'll get through this xx

Plan one activity for the morning and one for the afternoon. The rest is free play inside or outside and tv/songs if she needs something extra.

Stop doing so much. You're in pain and growing a new person. Treat it like getting her ready for the times you'll be tending to a newborn.

Look after yourself and she'll feel looked after too.

Hang on in there. This would be a tough time at the best of times, and this is, um, not the best of times. So to speak.

One suggestion, do you have a baby bath, or a big bowl, that you could fill with warm water and bubbles, with a variety of mugs etc for her to play with? I know our lovely ECE nana swore by this for the most highly strung of children, water would soothe and calm them, and they would play with it forever. And you can just watch on with a cuppa, making impressed noises.

Baby Einstein dvds were fantastic with my toddler, (and as an added bonus, it had the same effect on the grandparents, sending them into a drooly trance-like state even as they scoffed at them).

Letting them heave all the pots out the pot cupboard, and bang on 'em with a wooden spoon is another good one, depending on how noise sensitive your living situation is.

I have tried everything, water sand gloop slime building role play you name it.

This is this morning activity......

Hoping some loose parts and empty tubs will keep her happy for a little while

I didn't sleep last night due to anxiety about the week ahead. It was 3am before I finally shut my eyes and she was up at 6.

I just want to burst into tears and it's only Monday morning