Need more support

[waveajay]

I don't know how to make things better. I'm a stay at home mum to toddler twins and it is hard. I was on a low wage before having them and decided to leave work as I couldn't afford childcare.

I feel like I need support but I feel stuck. I want to retrain as I worked with children with disabilities before and that was even more stressful.

I probably should retrain and study in the evening.

I know it's not my family's fault but they have not been very supportive - which is fine they have their own lives but I just feel like I can't sustain the relationship anymore. I need to pay for more support for my family and it leaves no time.

Do you have a partner? You say you couldn’t afford childcare but it’s not your sole responsibility and your mental health is important.
Which meme bees of your family aren’t supportive? Have you explained how you are feeling to them.
because it’s hard but it will get easier as they get older

Members sorry. Not meme bees

What do you mean by you can't sustain the relationship any more, the relationship with who?

My side of the family. My husband works full time.

@waveajay Is there any chance you can afford to put them with a childminder for a day? Give yourself a day off each week?

I only had 1 child and found it hard going but we put him in nursery for 1 day a week. He had been going 3 days when I worked part time but I became a SAHM and we kept him in so I had a day to recharge but also get stuff done to put my house to rights.

Hopefully your Dh is hands on and can take over parenting whilst you get some time to yourself. This could be an agreed thing whereby you are studying in the evening and he gets on with whatever child related stuff is needed. It is important for partners to know what it is like to deal with a child (or twins) by themselves rather than having you always there to tag team. And yes your Dh works full time but so do a lot of single parents and they still come home, roll their sleeves up and crack on. It does get easier and better as they get older. You are just in the trenches at the moment.

My family were miles away, working full time themselves and we had relocated so I had no friends either. My sons are teens now but I remember how hard it was.