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Does anyone still use cot bed bumpers
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 10:23
Hi there my daughter is nearly 9 months this old and we are struggling with her going from her next to me crib into her cot bed. She likes to sleep right up to the side of the next to me so I think she finds the big spacious cot bed with the bars not comfortable. I have a 7year old daughter who I used cot bed bumpers with without any issues and all of a sudden 7yrs later the rules have changed. My head is telling me I've done this before just do what you know and worked but then you Google stuff and listen to health visitor and it puts doubt in my mind to use them again. Any opinions or advice would be appreciated xx
ILoveChristmasLights · 08/01/2019 10:28
You have to be joking surely?
What does being fortunate enough that your eldest DD didn’t strangle herself with hers have to with whether your youngest could?
Nothing.
They’re dangerous and unnecessary.
Leave the youngest in her crib for as long as possible then try putting her cot next to your bed if you can, then moving it away, or just put up with a few nights of unsettled sleep.
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 10:33
Are you serious? How dare you speak to me that way.. Advise I was looking for not a lecture off a Complete stranger. This is what is wrong with these groups people like you who jump on the defense and think you can belittle people with your over the top opinions.. How about saying your view without being so aggressive. This is why I have posted to see if people still use them because as stated more people than not used them 7-8 years ago. Disappointing that people would rather shame and belittle than support and encourage one another.
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 10:37
Thank you kannet.. I have the breathable bumpers on already. She is quite small for her age so I think it just feels a little big for her. I think because I didn't put her in her own room at 6months she is aware now when she's not in my room to.. I have her in a sleep bag and it's dark il just keep trying her.
Wenttoseainasieve · 08/01/2019 10:39
She was hardly aggressive OP. I agree actually, you know they are considered dangerous, so why on earth would you go ahead and use them? You can get breathable ones that wrap individually around the posts of the cot, maybe that would be an option? The traditional padded ones that are a long piece of fabric aren't safe.
pajamallama · 08/01/2019 10:42
We use something similar to these. They Velcro round the bars individually so still space to breath.
Foxyscarf · 08/01/2019 10:42
She wasn't aggressive really, she just doesn't want anything bad to happen to your baby.
You haven't tried her in the cot yet to see if she likes it. She might be OK with it. My kids smush their faces against the bars of their cots, my theory is if it wasn't comfortable then they wouldn't do it.
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 10:45
I haven't used them? I have breathable ones. Can I just state that my daughter hasn't even slept I there yet?! I know loads of people that were using the sleepy heads inside cots I am just asking advise off other mothers. My oldest daughter is 7 and everything has changed a lot since then. Advise I am looking for though not a lecture off other mothers. My baby is still in with me in her next to me crib. I was just stating that she likes to go up to the sides side is there any advise on her feeling more comfortable.
ArfArfBarf · 08/01/2019 10:45
I have a 7 year old and the advice was no soft bedding - cot bumpers, pillows, duvets etc - back then too.
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 10:50
I have tried her in her cot bed a few times but she never lasts long and we always end up putting her back in her next to me because she just doesn't seem to settle. Advise and opinions is what I came on
here for, but not to be put down by any one I mean to say I'm lucky my oldest daughter didn't strangle herself is a bit much. If any of you have older children then you probably used bumpers to.
Suzysuzuki · 08/01/2019 10:51
I use these as I also have a baby who gravitates to the bars:
www.dunelm.com/product/bizzi-growin-rainbow-and-unicorns-bumper-wraps-1000131077
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 10:55
Thank you suzysuzuki these look good Il have a look into them x
ArfArfBarf · 08/01/2019 10:57
www.lullabytrust.org.uk/parents-should-remove-cot-bumpers/
The bumpers linked above still make it easier for a baby to climb over the bars and suffer a nasty fall.
Rachjones · 08/01/2019 11:21
By the time she would start trying climb out I wouldn't need anything and can I just reply to one comment about just putting up with a few unsettled nights sleep.. I breastfed for months and my baby still wakes for a bottle every night my partner is amazing so the sleep thing really isnt the factor in me wanting to make her feel more comfortable and relaxed going into her own room.. I will never ever post on a group like this again, to say I'm mortified by some of your respsonses. Quick to judge, half of you have commented without even reeding what I've posted properly. Help and support group? More like over opinionated preachers. Unlike some of you I would rather support and guide other mothers not make them feel like crap which you have done to me.
Foxyscarf · 08/01/2019 13:55
You asked for opinions and advice and you got them. Everyone knows cot bumpers are dangerous, you included.
dawn96 · 06/02/2019 02:16
My daughter wouldn’t sleep in a cot she was such a crazy sleeper ,she would end up tangled in the bars several times a night no lie ! She woke more than as a newborn. I bought a travel cot the size of a regular cot and put her mattress in it and she woke less as the sides were soft and less uncomfortable
WereYouHareWhenIWasFox · 06/02/2019 02:44
Bumpers were considered dangerous and unnecessary when I had my babies 20 years ago. You seem pretty highly strung OP, hope your child starts sleeping soon.
Oldtiger · 06/02/2019 02:56
Oh OP, don’t let PP upset you. I found avoiding posting too late at night (I’m up with poorly child!) or avoiding AIBU can reduce the more blunt posters. Commenting on you being “highly strung” is a bit unfair in my opinion. Luckily you’ve been given a few helpful suggestions.
I got flamed once for asking for tactful ways for returning a heap of summer clothes my MIL bought unannounced that were completely not to my daughters taste. I got called all sorts including selfish, spoilt, snobby etc! There are pros and cons to the anonymity of forums. Good luck with it all
upsidedown13 · 09/02/2019 20:38
I just wanted to give my two cents on this, I am a health visitor and was a midwife for 15 years. It is not considered safe to use any soft material in a babies cot under the age of 12 months. This actually even includes the mesh bumpers although these are considered a safer alternative but still not recommended! What I usually say to mothers and in particular mothers that have more than one child is go with your own insticts but make sure that you read up fully on any item and make it as safe as absolutely possible and this means making sure any threads,strings or wires are out of reach of baby and knots are tied tight, making sure they are clean and free from dust or smoke! I would highly recommend investing in a video monitor if you are going to use bumpers, as you have said your child gravitates towards the sides where the bumpers will be, if you can check on your child without going in and potentially waking them that might put your mind at rest.
I hope this helps OP!
Chewbecca · 09/02/2019 20:43
What are the reasons for using them?
We all know there are (very good) reasons not to.
I wouldn't, I don't get why you would tbh.
dementedpixie · 09/02/2019 20:48
My eldest is 15 and I never used them for her or for ds (12). They seemed pointless to me and possibly dangerous so never bought them
Oly4 · 09/02/2019 20:52
She won’t sleep in the cot because she’s seven months old. They just don’t.. they still expect to be held all night at that age.
OP, you just have to put up with the unsettled nights I’m afraid.
Cot bumpers can be lethal - it’s not worth the risk
AlexaShutUp · 09/02/2019 21:00
If any of you have older children then you probably used bumpers to.
My dd is 13. Bumpers were definitely considered dangerous when she was a baby, so you obviously ignored the advice when your older child was a baby. Ignore it again now if you wish, but they're still dangerous. Is it really worth the risk?
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