What have I done all day?

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I'm sick to death of this so I need to have a little went here.
DP is self employed and I'm a STHM I have 3DC ages 1-6 and a 14 year old DSS.
So there are 6 people living here and I'm the only one that tidied up! If it's not tidy I get it in the ear from DP because apparently I'm lazy and sit on my arse all day doing nothing!

DSS is a typical teenage girl who's messy, DP is messy and the other three are young so they're messy too.
Most of the time I feel overwhelmed to the point where I don't feel like doing anything. Why do some men not realise that looking after young children is exhausting! I get made to feel bad if I choose to nap with my 1 year old instead of cleaning!

I've had enough! I feel envious of those couples who look after the house together regardless of whether they both work or just one!
I suffer with PND which doesn't help and it's not easy to even get the motivation to get on with it

You might enjoy this book OP - What Mothers Do, Especially When It Looks Like Nothing

Your husband is a piece of shit, speaking to you like that. How dare he. Read this book www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/217475-why-does-he-do-that-inside-the-minds-of-angry-and-controlling-men

Then look for a job and a divorce and let him tidy up after himself and your kids EOW.

I would go on strike do the basics.. keep the kids alive but nothing more see if he thinks then that you do nothing all day cheeky sod! When he sees his dirty clothes piling up or the dinner not being made or any of the other endless tasks sahm's do all day then he might realise. If all else fails there is always the option of divorce as suggested above