Freaking out about returning to work

[Beckie1987]

I am so confused about what to do. Half of me is saying go back to work and the other half is saying stay at home. Anyone gone back to work regretted it or stayed at home and regretted it?

Had dd 1 year ago & due to return in January, I take her to tones of play groups so she is used to children. Had first settling in day at nursery and I'm freaking out. Dd seemed comfortable playing and no issues there but just feel she is still too young to go nursery. It just feels unnatural. My dm and mil will be minding her 2 days and nursery 2 days.

I have no issues with her going to dm or mil I just feel like 4 days without her is too much. I can't do less hours. My husband works away 3 nights per week in London and is happy for me to be a sahm.

We are trying for baby num2 and I was hoping I would be pregnant by now as was only gonna go back for a few months as I get 6 months full pay maternity but had early mc in August (was gonna start trying Oct but got caught July). But nada at the mo

[firsttimebabybirther]

I went back on October 1st when DS was almost 7 months old. I dreaded it and then hated every second of it , my last day is December 22nd as I couldn't handle it.

Everyone is different , some people are ready straight away and some people are not. I hope you can make the right decision for you and your family

[Beckie1987]

@firsttimebabybirther thanks for your response. Deep down I feel like I'm gonna end up doing the exact same thing

[firsttimebabybirther]

It's totally up to you, you never know you could go back and totally love it and it could be exactly what you need or maybe not and whatever happens is fine.

I went back to a promotion where I am manager of a new team , a tough workload and a lot more responsibility , but maybe if I had gone back to my old position it would be different.

[Beckie1987]

For anyone reading this thread. I ended up ringing my manager saying if I can’t come back doing 2 days I can’t come back. They understood and I ended up going back 2 days (hated being away from dd) but got pregnant and was a sahm with 2 dds for a year and a half before going back to work somewhere else 2 days.

Loving being back to work, I have more patience and feel more like myself again. It didn’t affect my career being off either

[Indigogirl88]

I needed to heat that op @Beckie1987 I'm in the same boat