Finding friends

[QueenGoblin]

My LO is 14 months old and very active. We do one class a week but otherwise don't always get out that much.

I made a few friends whilst on maternity leave who I do still see on occasion, but since making the decision to become a stay at home mum I have realised that everyone else has gone back to work! It wasn't as noticeable over the summer (for some reason?!), but now it is clear I don't have a group.

I've found that most classes are aimed at younger babies (for mums on maternity leave) or older kids (at least 18 months) so I feel like we're in a bit of a limbo class wise, but also can't really afford to pay for endless classes. I have also found that people aren't that chatty after class.

I've tried a couple of playgroups but found them to either but very cliquey or very churchy.

I also try some of those mum social apps. But I don't drive so am somewhat restricted on locations.

What does everyone else do to find mums to hang out with?

Pram runs/exercise classes? I personally have really enjoyed toddler groups, but I do find you have to go regularly to get to know people. Swimming?

I found the mums at our swimming classes to be less than friendly.

I haven't tried buggy fitness, but it looks like it's mostly new mums who take part?

Maybe it's me. I've never been great making new friends.

Local libraries sometimes have story sessions and/or rhyme times.
I went to several parent and toddler groups. Try several sessions to get a general feel for each one.

It’s not you, it’s just that you haven’t found your group yet. If your swim group aren’t great could you change to another time or location? You may meet new people that way. What about swapping some toddler groups around too or an exerscise based class you can meet people there? Then your not adding more on, lots of places do a trial week near here. It’s hard at the stage you are at, and I remember thinking lots of people I liked went back to work one by one, and I remember feeling a bit lonely. Good luck with it and let us know how you get on