Stay at home parent

[abbie7]

Does anyone else feel like they're not doing enough being a stay at home mum? Do you feel like you need to explain yourself when people ask if you're working?

no, only once and it was a right sour woman who made a big deal about it, her colleagues were a mix of and

No and no!

I do sometimes feel guilty for lazing around and not making the best use of my time at home but I just remind myself I didn’t make the best use of my time working either. I shouldn’t have to kill myself or be a megaorganised superwoman at home any more than I would at work. Some SAHMs are disorganised scatterbrained lazebiens just like at work.

As for explaining myself, no one ever seems to ask. I’m desperate to talk about myself but no one ever talks to me about me (sigh) only the kids. Don’t even get the chance to justify my choices.

No I don't feel the need to explain myself as it's nobody's business bar mine and my partners. Since our youngest has started nursery a few school mums have been questioning me about what I do all day and why don't I work. I just say that by the time I've had my hair, nails and facials done there isn't enough time. Not true but it pisses them off

I occasionally feel bad or haven't done enough if I haven't crossed most of my days to do list off, or spent most of my day not doing enough with dd and done some things that definitely needed doing at home (cleaning a car of sick, cleaning carpets from something dd did/spilt, one thing after another kind of day) but mostly I don't.
I'm always on my feet cleaning, looking after animals, playing or teaching my dd life skills and growing up happy and well and making memories. The least I could do is get things done when she is asleep if dh is going to support me being at home.
Never feel the need to explain myself, being a home keeper is my job, I don't expect anybody with a job to explain why they work.