Lonely in the holidays

[Lunablue765]

Hi im a stay at home parent and when i moved to a new area four years ago i thought making new friends would be easy but it hasnt been. I dont mind having zero friends in term time but my god its lonely in the holidays i have no messages or text we have no play date invites nothing at all i feel sad but im most sad about my children missing out any words of wisdom please?

How old are your dc?

my son's school is miles away and doesn't get to see his friends hardly at all. We just get out and about as much as possible.

Hi my children are 5 nearly 6 and 20 months

Definitely get out of the house, I was in the exact same situation. I barely spoke to another person for 18 months.

Go to anything that will occupy the children, preferably local. If your child is in school then the best thing would be to organise playdates with his friends during term time. That way there is the possibility of meeting up in the holidays.

You get out what you put in. I have been a SAHM for over a decade. There are very few of us, but I did make friends with some of them and part timers so we did meet up in holidays.

Sometimes SAHMs get worried about being seen as free childcare and so parents can be reluctant to befriend you in case you think they are only befriending you for that reason.

When I said same position I meant a relocation with Dh's work meant I left all my friends, and my job behind. It was difficult to make new friends because I wasn't working.

I get lonely too, it’s hard isn’t it.

Have you had a look at any community centres near you? Our local church puts on an afternoon holiday club for all the local children which is a great way to get out and meet people

Have you tried the Mum apps Mush or Peanut? They help connect with locals mums looking for friends.

Is your local NCT group active (or similar)? The one where I live has numerous groups you can attend - some based on child's age, some location - so it could be a weekly coffee morning or a weekly play group.

My DS is nearly 1 and I've only recently officially become a SAHM. I did not know a single person where we live before having a baby, since having DS I have made a few friends but now most have returned to work I'm trying to get out and about a bit more to meet some other SAHMs, but it's not easy!