How do i conquered Bordem as a SAHM

[Caseyr0se]

Hiya i have an 11 month old boy and im starting to get very bored during the day, i just don't know what to do there's only so many times i can sing songs and play with toys, i live in an area with A LOT of hills so that makes going out really hard and having to drag the pram up stairs us hard too so i end up staying in a lot, everywhere i could take my son is a good 45 min walk there and then an enermous hill back and i don't have the money for transport what can i do?!

Have a look for a good sling for older babies - a Connecta maybe. I would also be looking to move tbh.

A 45 minute walk each way is really good exercise. I would go out each day and leave pram at the bottom of the stairs if possible.

Try mush or local Facebook groups so you can meet people with similar age children.

Start adopting themes for the week, eg this week I’m doing lots of space stuff with my boys, last week it was arctic animals, next week is jungles. Loads of good free play ideas on Pinterest and parenting blogs. At 11 months this is more for your sanity than anything but as your son gets older he will learn from it.

Try to use the walks to places for his naps, you need to get out sometimes.

Also pick a hobby you can do from home, eg I’m learning German on my phone, a friend does lots of online surveys and gets vouchers, another has learnt to crochet and now sells bits at craft fairs etc.

I thought this was going to be about how you convinced Javier Bardem to live in your spare room...

Try to arrange at least something to look forward to on a regular basis (once a month/fortnight). Give yourself a budget that could include a taxi/refreshments/babysitter. It could be visiting friends, going to a gallery, lunchtime theatre, visiting a local landmark you’ve always promised yourself but not got round to.

Don’t let the family or anyone else make you change the arrangements (only exception being illness or Armageddon). And don’t allow any guilt about spending a bit of money on yourself. This is self-care and vital to ensure you’re on top form to look after your young family.

It is quite boring being a SAHM but you can also be your own person. Adopt the mindset of ‘I’m doing this my way’ instead of ‘I’m really bored doing the same things all the time’.

Oh and think about moving so can get out and about with your DC more easily.

You sound exactly like me haha! My son is 13 months and although we live in a town it is the far end of it up a hill so even if I fancy a walk its like a hike!
I find though tbh I rarely get bored, the days fly. He's a late sleeper (which is nice) so we get up around 9am, both of us have our breakfasts, I shower etc by which time its 11pm, then lunch, maybe an afternoon nap while I do housework or just read etc and then OH is home! When the weather was nicer we did brave it and have a few walks, or friends come to see us, or we'll just pop into town (which is more effort than its worth with the pram in the car!)
Have you tried taking him to soft play? (we have only been once but he seemed to enjoy it), or are there any other groups like messy play etc on?
I know what you mean about the songs though, we either have little baby bum nursery rhymes on loop, in the night garden or peppa pig!

11am not pm haha.. it doesn't take me that long to shower!!

Things that kept me sane were...

-discovering podcasts that you can listen to while you do boring stuff like folding washing.
-Getting out every day (or most days if it’s a mission) playgroups, softplays, Coffee with Nct mates, park, children centre, swimming, family calling in, anywhere with a coffee shop and room to run around! For me if I don’t get out I feel nuts!

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