Feeling sick with nerves!
We have lived in Hertfordshire forever. I have lived in the same town my whole life, my mum lived here and her mum etc, all within a 1 mile radius.
My husband has just been offered a promotion but it would mean a move to north wales! A whole other county!
Now I love north wales! It’s my absolute favourite holiday, I have so many wonderful memories of being there, but a holiday and living are completely different.
I tried talking to my sister but she emigrated to New Zealand 9 years ago, and my brother moved to Australia 16 years ago, so when I mentioned my nerves they both laughed as a move from Hertfordshire to Wales is nothing compared to their moves.
We have found a few houses we like, all come with an annex so my mum will move with us, she would love a new start, my dad passed away 3 years ago, they were together since they were 13 and he also grew up in the same town, a street away from where my mum grew up, so every place here has a memory for her and I think she just feels sad being here now.
One minute I feel excited the next I feel sick with worry. Our oldest daughter is doing her GCSE’s so we won’t officially be moving until she finishes but our middle daughter is due to move up to secondary in September so we need to have a house etc so she can move up to a secondary school in wales. Our youngest is 6 and just excited about the thought of having her own room.
I’m just so scared. I’m scared of the change. What if the kids hate it but it will be too late to come back and then they blame us for moving them. What if it’s all just too different! What if the kids at the schools that my kids will go to will pick on them for not being welsh (I know that sounds silly but all these thoughts are running through my head).
We currently live in quite a built up town, our house is a small 3 bed but our town is so expensive due to being 20 mins on the train to London that when we sell up, even if we get below asking price we can get a 5/6 bed detached beautiful home with a separate annex/bungalow for my mum, and nearly 3 acres of land. And that should be enough of a green light to go but I just feel sick with it all. We could never afford a home like that where we live, it would be 4/5 million easily. But it’s actually comfortably within budget and we have found 3/4 houses that are similar. We just couldn’t believe it when we were looking.
Has anyone made a big move like that and lived to regret it? If we go there will be no way we could afford to move back to our town, we would be priced out completely to go from a huge home in wales to a small 3 bed again.
Has anyone felt like this and it all been ok?
My husband is going to the wales office tomorrow to discuss it further but it’s getting more and more real. I don’t want to burst his bubble, he will feel really sad knowing how scared I am. He’s my best friend and if I said no don’t do it he would always stick by me on that but I know if it was the other way round he would follow me to the end of the earth.
I work from home full time so it doesn’t make any difference to me, it’s just the fact that this move will change the course of our kids entire lives and that’s a big scary thought x