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Should I Be suspicious of these messages

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ImADadButThatsOKIsntIt · 11/08/2022 20:46

DW and I have been together about 20 years since we were 19/20. Last night she was showing me how to archive WhatsApp messages and I saw a glimpse of some odd ones. Rightly or wrongly I had a look while she was sleeping; about 6 years ago she received 1 message saying;
‘Hey beautiful did you get home OK?Lol’ from 1 number, and another saying
’Heyyyyy 😘😘 Remember me🙊’
from another one.
there are no replies to either and they were archived in 2020.

we’re going though a bit of a rocky patch, neither of us are great communicators, do I just leave it or should I ask her? If I ask her any advice on how to ask, she’s quite fiery, doesn’t like being confronted or disagreeing with.

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Zone2NorthLondon · 11/08/2022 21:09

What’s gained from raking up 2 year ago messages?what do you want to happen?
she didn’t reply,there’s been no activity that you can see. Leave it be imo

SunshineLoving · 11/08/2022 21:14

They could well be from women, friends, she met on nights out. A lot of women text friends like that.

I agree with the pp. I would personally leave it and wouldn't mention it. They are from a few years ago and don't seem like 'affair messages'. Maybe they're was some flirting but those messages don't scream affair to me.

Dotcheck · 11/08/2022 21:16

What’s this got to do with rural living? Would city folk have different answers?
But agree with pp.

user1485389288 · 11/08/2022 21:42

Meant to be in relationships, thought I deleted the rural living one, but thanksjudt needed some perspective

firsttimemom99 · 11/08/2022 22:49

You should be suspicious.
You only saw messages that were archived. Imagine what other messages there have been that could have been deleted. I have a feeling that if you were a woman posting about your husband, the previous responses would have been different...
I’d bring it up regardless. If they meant nothing there shouldn’t be an issue, but if she responds with confrontation and defensiveness from the get go id say there’s more than meets the eye. The messages definitely look suspicious and if it were my partner, I would certainly discuss it with them. Maybe I’m being over the top...

Sheepreallylikerichteabiscuits · 11/08/2022 22:58

firsttimemom99 · 11/08/2022 22:49

You should be suspicious.
You only saw messages that were archived. Imagine what other messages there have been that could have been deleted. I have a feeling that if you were a woman posting about your husband, the previous responses would have been different...
I’d bring it up regardless. If they meant nothing there shouldn’t be an issue, but if she responds with confrontation and defensiveness from the get go id say there’s more than meets the eye. The messages definitely look suspicious and if it were my partner, I would certainly discuss it with them. Maybe I’m being over the top...

The previous responses might be different if it was a wife writing about her husband, but from my perspective that would be due to the tone of the message.

That hey beautiful could equally be a man messaging the OPs wife, or a female friend

But it would be unlikely for it to be a male friend messaging someones husband if the situation were reversed

Its just the wording and tone

OP think back 6 years, did anything happen at the time that gave you alarm bells?

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