New Community - Fitting In

[Prerapher]

I was on here a little while ago after leaving an abusive relationship and I was given some great advice which made me feel a lot better about myself, well I've made some progress now and have now found myself a little two bed terraced house in a lovely village, just the place to start a new life...the silly thing is that I'm now becoming quite anxious about living in a new place and becoming part of a new community and worrying as to whether I'll fit in generally.

Although I'm friendly and approachable I don't make new friends too quickly and I'm somewhat lacking in confidence (probably because of my background) so I know unless I make an effort I'm likely to become socially isolated which I don't want, I've looked into what's going on locally but it seems to be aimed mainly at children or older people and don't want to end up looking like the 'desperate misfit' who joins everything that's going.

I'd really appreciate some suggestions especially if you've been in a similar position to me 😁

Well done on getting out of a horrible relationship, that's really lovely to read.

Bet there's a WI or something like this nearby www.fwi.co.uk/farm-life/health-and-wellbeing/womens-facebook-group-combats-rural-isolation Check the local FB group/ask at the local church or school if there's a summer fete coming up that you could go along to or offer to help man the tea stall?

Good luck. FWIW, you sound like someone I'd like to have in my community.

Volunteering? Great way to meet people without it being awks

@vivariumvivariumsvivaria and @AceofPentacles
Thank you for the suggestions...I guess I'll just have to reach out and see what comes back to me....😁😁

I lived in rural villages for many years. IME people who are sound in wind and limb and willing to get involved will be welcomed with open arms, they are in short supply!

WI as PP have said is a good place to start, if you have any interests like gardening there will almost certainly be a gardening group. Charities like Riding for the Disabled yearn for able bodied helpers. Organised Litter picking may not be glamorous, but it is a good way to get to know the sort of neighbours you would like to know.

I liked living in a village very much. I miss it now we live in a suburb ( access to services being the prime reason)