Moving to Cotswolds - Social AND Rural?

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All. I hope you can help.

My wife grew up in a small village in Kent and always lived in a quiet area until she met me and moved into my (now, our) "town place" - a Victorian Semi twenty minutes walk from a busy town centre - getting on for eight years ago.

Speaking frankly, she is not a fan of where we are now - the noise, the absence of off-road parking, the totally inconsiderate drivers, the litter, people's attitude in general - and definitely doesn't want to bring our (to be) kids up here.

I always promised that after a number of years - now reached - we would move "to the country" and we have our eye on the Cotswolds (along with half of London, it seems!) as this is sufficiently away from the "rat race" while still being a commutable distance for my job, on those occasions when I have to go in (once or twice a week).

But, the question is where? And, more important, where such that our kids won't resent us as they grow up (through a lack of things to do)? I'm hoping that there's a perfect location which has that balance of "escape to the country" (preferably village/small town) life while at the same time avoiding being a social/cultural and entertainment desert. (Esp. since will will be looking to make new friends through shared interests).

All your collective wisdom is hugely appreciated.

Thanks all!

Oxford is surrounded by lovely villages but has a proper city feel.
Cirencester?
Stroud is a Marmite place. Not sure how good for kids.
If I had a good budget I'd look at villages around Oxford.

If you need to go to London once or twice a week, base your search round train stations. The Cotswolds is not that well served.

Dursley, Kemble, Gloucester, Tewksbury, Moreton in Marsh, Banbury, Cheltenham, Swindon?

DH grew up near Bourton on the Water. PiLs still there, in deep countryside. I love Stowe on the Wold, always setms to be something going on but not quite a touristastic as Bourton. But miles from a train station!!

Abingdon? Lovely town, the river/rowing, loads to do. Good state schools or lots of private school choose. Easy bus route into Oxford. Not quite the Cotswolds though.

Oxford itself is hideously expensive in the nice areas. Full of tourists in the summer.

Witney is a bit meh. Not much character except for the centre, too many new builds.

Cheltenham is lovely, and there’s plenty of villages or areas on the outskirts that are cheaper but still an easy distance in.

or are you thinking more like a village? Your teens may not thank you for that in a few years.

The Cotswolds is lovely but quite boring socially speaking! Generally the villages with schools/pubs will have more going on. Cheltenham might be a good compromise?

We live along the Cotswolds railway line - far enough to make 2 days a week in London just about doable, but you wouldn't want to do more, esp as theres only one train an hour. TBVH, if you are thinking about places being a cultural desert then I think you aren't in a place to move to a village or small town. IMO, you need to be ready to embrace places as they are, accept that making friends esp when you wfh is tricky especially as you don't have children yet, and be ready to enjoy what there is. But we can be in Birmingham within 45 minutes, Worcester in 20, Bristol or Cardiff in 1hr 15 and many other places for concerts/comedy - or walk into town for a film at the volunteer run arts centre. I love living somewhere that going to watch said film involves buying tickets from Sheila (chat about how her grandsons A levels are going), getting drinks from Maureen (she wants to know about our dogs), picking up a posh burger from Darren after - but I know some people would hate all that.

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/123563270#/?channel=RES_BUY somewhere like this you have Banbury, Morton in Marsh and Shipston within really easy reach for trains to London (Banbury being the better option) shopping but a very small village to live

www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/123486521#/?channel=RES_BUY

this location you could easily and safely cycle into Shipston, and be in Banbury in 25 minutes

the 25 minutes was driving not on a bike

Thanks. Interesting to hear such comments re Stroud, and not for the first time. Be visiting it in a day or two so I guess we will see for ourselves! (Though visiting not the same as living there, of course!).
I know (/knew) Oxford well - spent three years (studying) there, but not as a "townie".
Btw. Our main reasons to look further west are a.) escape the "rat race"; and b.) get more for our money. Isn't Oxford (and its surrounds) one of the more expensive places in this regard?
Also - (and this is an odd one, I know) - Oxford is only a little west (20+ miles) of where we currently are. It doesn't really feel like we'd be truly starting over and could risk being drawn back rather than forced to lay down new roots. Psychologically, it feels a little less like "moving to the country". If that makes sense?
And then Cirencester - I don't really know at all, other than its proximity to Kimble which is obviously a big plus!
Many thanks for your advice.

Thanks! Not quite London, but I get your drift re train stations. Ideally, it would be no more than an hour in/out, though the "fit" of the area is more important to us than a few extra mins on the train (as it's not like it's five times a week). I wouldn't want to be doubling the time getting to the station, however, so I guess that sets boundaries.

Thanks for your comments. I hear you re village life and (future) teenagers. I guess the ideal balance would be to be close enough in proximity to somewhere with more to do (for them, growing up). Whether that be for sports or something more arts-related (e.g., local dance, music, drama). Just something to get connected with socially.
I'm wondering if that's more (outskirts of) small town, rather than small village. Though, some small towns can of course just be a bit neglected. (And some small villages can have a really thriving community).
Interesting comments re Witney. Isn't that where our former PM lives/lived? Always assumed it was more up-market than it sounds.
Yeah. Cheltenham is an interesting call. Though, once we get as far as there, you seem to get into "much more for your money" territory of Worcester, Tewksbury, Pershore and so on (and we dismissed a really nice place in Pershore a few months back we thought it too far). Where to draw the line I guess?!

David Cameron lived up towards Chipping Norton, there’s a lot of celebs etc around there and prices to match. Lovely area though.

Following this thread with interest as in same position. what did you think of Stroud? X

Swindon is horrid and so's Oxford IMO, I'd give those a miss! For towns (of different sizes) that are in lots of countryside I'd recommend Marlborough, Hungerford and Newbury and the surrounding areas. Much easier to get to London than the Cotswolds too. Henley/Sonning/Goring are lovely too and much closer to London than the Cotswolds.

How about Suffolk op? You can be up to London in an hour and thirty minutes but still live in glorious fresh air and lovely countryside and there's loads to do for dc and teens especially if they are in to water sports/horse riding etc. You have to be careful regarding schools but there are some good ones.

Cricklade is a beautiful town, close to Swindon for the rail link.

Lechlade too.

South Cerney is also lovely.

It depends which end of the Cotswolds you want, whether you need to be right in them or in an outskirt town or village and whether you need to be able to drive to work.