WWYD Move or Not

[tomtom88]

Hello

Its a would you stay or would you go and do you have any experiences or regrets if you have been in a similar situation. Looking at going from posh cheshire village to a nice market town in se ( we know which town but i wont mention it here)

Long story and entirely out own fault through years of indecision with tbf a bit of bad luck and personal circumstances thrown in

Anyway we live in a semi rural village in the NE moved here over a decade ago pre kids. Its quite a posh village and doesn't feel partixularly northern tbh if that makes a difference!! Unfortunately my DH suffered a major illness when we moved and we kind of missed out on that initial energy of pushing to meet new people when we first arrived. Coupled with uncertainty over DH job role which could have meant a change of location.
Truth is we could and should have put more effort in but we find even after a decade we have no real friends and even eldest DD doesnt have a very close best friend.

Schools in area are great and we would be able to move up the property ladder and buy a very large quite spectacular house in the area that we put a speculative offer in for which now looks likely to be accepted but we still have some doubts.

Anyway top and bottom of it is we have been trying to move closer to london for years but been scuppered by covid then house sales falling through and other stuff. We are bow at a point where eldest DD will be in yr7 next year and we really need to move over the summer if at all.

At various times both me and DH have not enjoyed living here and eldest DC has had a bit of a mixed time at school meaning she was initially actually keen to move - we have other children but they are younger.

Would you

1. buy house in current area and just enjoy larger house
2. just move
3. rent out current house and rent one in the new commuter belt area

Anyone

also sorry for the typos

I live rurally I absolutely hate it, I'm desperate to move. Its given me all sorts of mental and physical health problems. short holidays here would be fine but not living! We will get out of here next year.

How about renting out your current house so you can keep it if you want to and then using what you would spend on rent on another house on a new mortgage

Readtheroom very sorry to hear that you are suffering i so find it quite isolating

Would you just move then do you think even for a smaller house

tbf it is semi rural and villagey in nature a bit insular and i just don't think we have made the right connections here and not sure that will change no matter how long we stay

with the ages of DC i just think what is best

If you don't like where you live now and have no friends there, move if you have the resources to do so. A bigger house isn't going to make up for you struggling to make friends.

Having said that, have you looked at schools where you would move to? Is it worth alos looking at other villages close to where you are now, to get a different social circle, but to keep access to your current school if they're academically decent?

None of you seen attached to the current area and before starting secondary is good timing so I’d move hands down and not look back. The fact that you’ve been trying for years and have even got as far as house sales falling through suggests it’s ultimately want you want to do, not just a passing idea when having a bad day. Whatever you decide though, good luck!

Randomquest

Yes its true we trued to move when DD was in yr5 but 2 sales fell through. We have now sold house but because of delays have missed the admissions deadlines etc though could still be there on time

Yes we could move to an area close by to enable continuing access to schools but I think we both have felt at various times and to various degrees that we would like closer access to London than cheshire allows.

Area we are looking at has trains that are 40 mins with regular services. Again I wont name the town.