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What is wrong with me (content warning)

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S0berat40 · 19/08/2023 00:25

No idea where to start with this.

3 years ago I was raped by a close family friend. I originally never told anyone, however managed to tell my partner after a few months. We ended up splitting up due to multiple reasons but mostly he blamed me as I was drunk and couldn’t believe it wasn’t reciprocated. Anyway during this time, I slept with the rapists brother and my partner and I got back together. I’m a total mess, drinking and taking drugs regularly due to guilt and self loathing.

how on Earth do I move forward from this. My partner and I are now back together but we are basically flat mates, no sexual interaction at all unless we are both extremely drunk. I want to make this work but have no idea where to start

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WhamBamThankU · 19/08/2023 01:14

Have you tried asking GP to refer you for talking therapy? Sorry OP, sounds like a shit situation. Sending hugs.

DustyLee123 · 19/08/2023 06:47

You need help to stop the drink and drugs. And having your partner there won’t help as he drinks too much too.
Then you need counselling for your trauma.
I assume you don’t want to report it ?

Andthereyougo · 19/08/2023 09:26

I’m so sorry this happened to you.
Can you start by speaking to a GP or a nurse at your GP surgery?
If you want to remain anonymous you can contact Rape Crisis https://rapecrisis.org.uk/. If you’re not in the UK Google similar wording and your country.
I think reaching out to someone else will help, bottling this up isn’t go to.

Rape Crisis England & Wales

Get help and support after rape, sexual assault, sexual abuse or any form of sexual violence. We are the charity working to end sexual violence and abuse.

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/

Newusernameaug · 19/08/2023 09:29

Get help and support asap, there’s normally charities around that offer it xx

Newusernameaug · 19/08/2023 09:30

You can get through this, it’s horrific and I’m sorry it’s happened to you. The amount of shame a rape victim carries is torture.
Also you can’t carry on with boyf - not when he blamed you and questioned you, any decent man would accept your version and support you - not try and blame you.

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