Met DP early thirties (now mid) and at the time was dating widely. Told him I was looking to settle down and have a family. He was equally as enthusiastic about this and we started to date more seriously and have moved in.
A few months ago we had a proper conversation where we said we would start trying next January. I had explained that I would have started sooner but also saw that it would be nice to live together longer etc. He said he would have waited longer so we compromised on January as I will be 35 next year.
Just found out that I’m pregnant which we think is pill failure after a bout of food poisoning. DP has been supportive but initially said ‘this was meant to be a few years away.’ I asked what he meant by that given we said we would start trying in January and he said he never agreed to that.
I don’t know why it’s upset me so much, he’s not said he wants to terminate or anything but it’s the fact that I trusted him and I would have stayed with him… got to January and then he would presumably have said he had no recollection of our conversation and would have kept putting it off? I just feel like a mug
When this happened I felt so guilty as I thought I should have checked the packet better or known it might have been affected by how ill I was but I now also feel quite angry he could have done that to me. I specifically said if you don’t want kids by that date then I need to move on. He didn’t have to lie to me.