Dh isn't close to her but feels obligated to maintain occasional contact with her. He had a pretty rough childhood and none of his siblings are close to MIL. We last saw her about 3 years ago when DD was a baby. We now also have a baby DS and MIL is coming over tomorrow to visit us.
Fine, I just feel uneasy because I really don't know what to expect from this visit. MIL's behaviour doesn't follow social forms that I'm used to, for example she told me, a new mother that I shouldn't hold my own baby when she was sleeping. She tried to burst her way into my bedroom when baby DD was crying during the night, as babies do. She also doesn't really speak English so it's very hard to communicate with her.
She's only visiting for the weekend so we'll definitely be ok, but I'm wondering how she'll behave. Will she think that DD and DS will instantly adore her and be comfortable with her eventhough they don't know her at all? Will she use our DC as a photo op to try to show off for her friends? I'd add that DD has never had a Christmas/Birthday present or card from MIL and DH doesn't speak to her regularly so she's never facetimed with either child.
During these 3 years she's been abroad and away with her friends several times, but she hasn't seen us since 2020. She could be timid with the children or she could try to be all over them and in their faces. We don't seem to matter much to her but her friends and wider family means everything to her.
Not sure why I'm posting, just venting I think. She's never been directly unkind to me, I just found her very overbearing and intrusive when DD was a baby but at least I'm not the inexperienced new mother I was then and DD is now a very opinionated little girl. I intend to be polite to her but focus on caring for my children so DH can do the hosting.
Wish me luck!