I’ve been seeing someone for a couple of months now. Everything has been great and I thought we had an open and honest relationship that was going somewhere.
I’ve just found out that he was engaged to someone up until last year. They’d previously lived together and had planned on buying a house. This person has never come up on conversation before despite us talking about our pasts.
I feel shattered. Not because he was engaged but because he lied about her existence despite my only ask in the relationship was to be honest and open with each other as I’ve had previous bad relationships where I’ve been lied to and cheated on.
I’m taking time out to think about things and where this leaves us. He wants to try again and has apologised unreservedly. His excuse for not mentioning her was he was scared it would put me off if I learned they’d been so serious. We’re both older (late 40’s), both divorced so not exactly new to this.
My question - Do people deserve a second chance or if they’ve lied once they’ll lie again?