Hey everyone, I’m new here and wanted to reach out to fellow ladies to try and help lessen my anxiety around guys/dating.
I was seeing a guy for a few months towards the end of last year but it wasn’t really going anywhere. We were very on and off and never had a chat about what we really were. He was a lot more into it than I was and I found myself not having the confidence to tell him it wasn’t for me as I didn’t want to upset him (I struggle with people pleasing, a lot).
I know I should have told him sooner but I was finding him as a person very difficult to explain when things weren’t feeling right and I kept feeling pushed into a corner.
I did eventually muster up the courage to tell him it just wasn’t for me, this was just before Christmas (awful I know, but I just couldn’t keep it doing any longer).
a few days before I “officially” told him I couldn’t continue being with him, I unexpectedly got chatting to a guy who I am now seeing and things are going really well.
However, because of the way my anxiety can be, I feel compelled to tell the guy I’m now happily dating about this other guy I ended things with. Sounds silly I know as we got talking around 20th December and I officially ended things with the other guy on the 23rd.
Me and the new guy didn’t meet up until after the new year as we spent around 2 weeks chatting away online. I have blocked the other guys number and on social media etc.
as I said, I’m a massive people pleaser and feel the need to be so honest about everything to everyone.
what would everyone else’s thoughts be on this please? Am I making a mountain out of a molehill for myself?
thank you in advance ladies x